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Speaking of perspective... [rant]
So I kind of feel like an a$$hole for being extremely ticked off about this, and I know nothing can be done about it besides move on at this point, but I feel like I just need to vent it out of my system!
Over Easter weekend, my SIL and our two nieces (2 years old and 5 months old) came to stay at our house. This is the same SIL who got pregnant and lost her H a few weeks later in a car accident, all a month before our wedding. I feel terrible for SIL because she's been thrown into this working, single mom parenting now. The new baby is terribly needy all the time, so unfortunately the 2 year old just gets neglected a lot of the time. And there literally isn't anything she can even do - how do you control a 2 year old while you are sitting on the couch breast feeding your other baby?
That being said...2 year old can get a little out of control. The day she got here my H lifted her up so she could look at a decorative bowl filled with pomander potpourri things. Once she grabbed one he took it from her immediately because she was starting to destroy it. I didn't think anything of it because the bowl was up on a table. Well, apparently the next morning before I got up, the 2 year old must have climbed a chair and grabbed my favorite one out of the bowl. My H thinks that his sister just watched her sit on the floor and tear it apart while she fed the baby. Like it was okay because it gave her something to do for a few minutes. This is irritating, but not even what I'm mad about.
One of our first big furniture purchases was a really nice leather sectional couch. We even bought the insurance with it that they try to sell you to cover any repairs that need to be done during the first 5 years. Anyways, I come downstairs the next morning and immediately notice a quarter size blemish on the couch cushion. We use this couch almost all day/every day when we are home, and I had meticulously cleaned the couch right before they arrived so I knew for a fact it had happened that morning.
H thinks that SIL gave the 2 yr old a pen and paper to play with (since SIL literally brought no toys for her to play with over the weekend). We have a cream colored couch, and it was a white spot surrounded faintly by dark smudges. We think that she got pen on the couch (pen marks are removed/repaired for free), and that SIL "cleaned" the couch likely by smudging the pen trying to remove it, and then just scraping off the top layer of leather - leaving the white mark. H confronted SIL about it and she denied any knowledge of the stain, and just said "Yeah, [2 yr old] came up to me and said "look Mama!" and pointed it out". Yeah.F#cking.Right. She actually is turning 2 this weekend, and wouldn't point out the fact if someone had lit the couch on fire, much less a small surface stain. She is perfectly happy being covered head to toe with food, pretttttttty sure she doesn't have the mental capacity to realize that there a small spot on the couch that is lighter than everywhere else. Then SIL had the audacity to claim that the white spot was actually the color the couch was supposed to be, and that the entire rest of the couch was just dirty.
Now that she tried to clean it (really, just scraped off a layer of leather), they rejected our claim to have it fixed. I am so pissed off that she gave her daughter a f#cking pen to play with, that she wasn't watching her close enough with it and the couch got drawn on, that she made it worse by trying to clean it, and MOST OF ALL that she lied to our faces about it with such a ridiculous story. H is pissed as well, and all he says is that she has too much pride and would never own up to it so there is no point in even saying anything.
It's just frustrating when you work so hard to have nice things, and then people can't respect them or at the very least own up to & apologizing for damaging something. It is incredibly difficult to f#ck leather up (which is one of the reasons why we went with leather), but she managed to do it and in the process take something that would have been easily repaired for free for us to something we'll either have to live with or pay to have repaired. UGH!!! I realize her life is difficult, but that's not really an excuse to lie like that, especially since H was very easygoing and nonconfrontational when he asked her about it.
/Vent over. Feel better! Mostly =] Thank you for listening to me whine, I know this post got really long!
Re: Speaking of perspective... [rant]
I would be just as pissed so don't feel bad!
Just because her life is difficult at this moment doesn't make it OK for her child to be out of control all the time. And honestly, who gives a child a pen to draw with? A pen? Really? Crayons are chea
Wow I can understand that it is difficult being a single mom with 2 kids feel bad for her loss, but I mean there is such thing as a table or a coloring book & crayons. It seems like some people do not have respect for peoples things. IDK to me ther
Yeah, I really had no idea what she was thinking because she knows we don't have kids, or babysit kids regularly, so why would we have any toys? And I don't care what the circumstance, I'd give a kid a stapler to play with before I'd give them a
I agree with PP. How do you go somewhere for a weekend and not bring toys for your child? No wonder she's so destructive, she must be insanely bored!
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