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Does married friend like me?
Hi,
Nearly a year ago i started working at this one place. The guy that interviewed me and me clicked from the start. He wasn't my boss or anything. Anyways, we became close. He is married and i am single. We are about the same age. We carpooled to work together every day and he didn't stop teasing me. I can't be around him without him teasing me about something I have said or the facial expressions or whatever. He always finds something. However, at the same time he has always had my back at work and I could always trust him.
A few months ago I left the job and started working at a place near his job. I no longer have a car so he started carpooling with this other guy. He offered to come fetch me (it's out of his way) to and from work each day and he makes the other guy also fetch me. However, he won't stop teasing me and making me laugh. He teases me when we are alone and when we are with others. We do sometimes also hold our gazes. In the car when I am sitting at the back he will always look at me through the rear view mirror and speak to me , make funny faces and just look and smile at me.
If he goes out for lunch he will phone and ask me also. The other day he text me and asked if i bought food from home or not. I said I didn't. He said too bad. I asked why. So he said coz he also didn't bring food. He just doesn't stop bugging me.
There was an incidence at his job involving me and I heard from this girl that she was shocked how he stood up for me.
He doesn't want me touching him or even playfully hitting him but he has no problem starting to playfully hit me with chopsticks or trying to throw me into a fountain.
The other day, was a holiday and hardly anyone went to work. So, instead of going to my work I decided to go hang out with him. He was speaking to this colleague over the phone and told me that she was a porn star (obviously she wasn't) and he will show me. He pretended to look for her and put on a short porn movie. I told him I have something to learn from it. About half an hour later he told me that i surprised him coz he thought I had experience with a certain act and if I didn't do it with my ex.
A few weeks ago i understood that he told his friend from work that he doesn't know why I think he is interested (he said that coz of me touching him on his arm) . Obviously his friend doesn't know about the porn and stuff. My friend thinks coz of his relationship he is confused and also doesn't want anybody to think there is something btw us, but that he does have feelings and i must stay away.
I think he is just being friendly and really doesn't like me in any way.
Could he be interested?
Thanks
Re: Does married friend like me?
For fact of the matter that this gent is married?
Stay away from him.
He also sound a bit juvenile to me:
He doesn't want me touching him or even playfully hitting him but he has no problem starting to playfully hit me with chopsticks or trying to throw me into a fountain.
Is he 8 or 9 years of age? Just curious.
He is also a CREEP:
The other day, was a holiday and hardly anyone went to work. So, instead of going to my work I decided to go hang out with him. He was speaking to this colleague over the phone and told me that she was a porn star (obviously she wasn't) and he will show me. He pretended to look for her and put on a short porn movie. I told him I have something to learn from it. About half an hour later he told me that i surprised him coz he thought I had experience with a certain act and if I didn't do it with my ex.
Words can't explain how much this creep turns my stomach.
He is a married man behaving inapproproately. This is an emotional affair --- have you ever heard the term? If you have not, I suggest you familarize yourself with the definition of emotional affair.
Put about a continent's distance between you and him. End this "friendship" promptly.
He is married.
Even if this "relationship" was a bona fide friendly one, newsflash, sugar: single women stay the hell away from married men.
They do not ponder "OMG, is he interested in me?"
How old are you? Judging from your entire post, you sound like you're maybe 19 years old tops.
And BTW:
That's because.
Not COZ.
Isn't that cute --- wouldn't his colleague love to know that he's said she was a porn star.
And why are you discussing anything at all sexual with this pig?
Why do you seem to think this behavior he is exhibiting is natural and normal? And moreover why are you interested in a guy who is married?
And you think this guy LIKES you???
I don't know who needs the couch more: you or HIM!
You need to get your priorities straight and anybody who thinks it's okay to be with a married guy, period, has a problem, IMO.
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
With friends like that, who needs enemies, as they used to say back in the day.
You ought to fink on him to his wife. Do it before somebody else does.
I'm not saying the following to bust on you - please know that. But there is something about your entire post that just sounds "young" and for the fact that you're single - I just get this sense that there is something about you/ your personality that he sees as someone who he can "play" with and get to like him.
And in what I wrote - I'm not trying to cut you down. I'm actually cutting HIM down. I feel like he targeted you as a "victim", so to speak.
Back away, find another way to get to work, stop going to lunch with him.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
THIS
This!
When I was 18, I worked in an extremely male dominated office as a secretary/cashier. I was appalled by the way some of the men (married and otherwise) behaved. They were not interested in me really, but rather the thrill/fun of flirting or saying things to get a rise out of me.
Honestly I think that you should cut ties with him. Find another ride if you can, and just stop. He's not interested in you, and his behavior is inappropriate at best.
yes, he is interested, but not in what you think.
Listen, dating married men, while it is flattering and can feel like you have met some challenge, is a real suck. I speak from experience. It will waste your time and the emotional fall-out isn't pretty. He has nothing to lose by flirting around with you, you on the other hand, close yourself off to better opportunities by getting involved with him. In fact, I was just talking this over with a girlfriend last night, who has been with a married man for 4 years and wishes that she had walked away in the beginning.
It will go something like this, if you ignore the advice being given here: You will hook up, it will feel really exciting. He will tell you that he is separated or that he does not sleep with his wife. You will believe him and think you are special and better. Then, when you need him, he will not be available. Slowly a feeling of disgust and shame creep up on you. You will tell yourself to end it. He will show up and do something nice and the cycle will start all over again. Then you will wake up and realize that a couple of years have gone by, and you are still alone, but the married man is still married.
The choice is yours and I wish you the courage, self-esteem and strength to know that you can do way better than this.