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Don't know what to make of my Sister (long)
I have posted here previously about her.
My sister's behavior is baffling me.
Little background - my sister is 2.5 year younger than me (I am 31), my only genetic-related sibling. I have one half brother (who my dad adopted) and one step sister. My sister is married and has been for about 5 years. She recently went back to school (for her third degree), graduated this winter and is now looking for work and working a temporary job in the medical field.
Short recap - we announced at Christmas that we were PG. Apparently my sister suspected that I was PG because we had seen her a week before and I looked "sick but happy" (according to her). She said she was going to "corner me and get it out of me" but her DH told her not to so she didn't (everyone really likes him :-)).
So we announce on Christmas and she waits for my DH to help her carry some presents out to her car and tells him "just because you are PG doesn't mean you will have a healthy baby". She is in the medical field, so I get that this is her perspective on it, that I could miscarry or there could be something wrong with the baby. Anyway, DH thought it was uncalled for (and it was) but we just shrugged and moved on.
Then when I had my 12 week u/s and we were going to announce the PG publicly, she specifically asked me if I was going to tell our dad (who I haven't spoken to in about 3 years - he is an addict/alcoholic/etc) and I said no - that he would just find out when he finds out (I am friends with his relatives on FB). She forwarded the email I sent to her, my mom, MIL, aunt and grandma with all the information about me, u/s pictures and video, my doctor, hospital, the email addresses of my mom's family and personal info to my dad. I cried for a couple days, I was so upset. I did confront her about it, though it is unclear if she realizes exactly what she did/why I was so upset. I haven't copied her on any of the family emails re my PG since then.
So we saw her yesterday at my mom's house. It went fine. I am not a rude person and I talked to her just like I normally do. DH said she said some rude things to me (that I should exercise more because PG women can exercise more than non-PG women, etc). I didn't really notice (I am not super-sensitive). I thought things went fine. Until the end of the night, I went to the bathroom and my sister, her DH and their two dogs were in the hallway with my DH. My DH said something about how she shows her "motherly instinct" with her dogs who are her babies.
Now, we have a dog and a cat and treat them like our babies. We refer to them as our daughters and we are their mom/dad. My sister has two yorkies and treats them similarly, so DH didn't *mean* anything by the remark. Really.
Well, she went off on him about how she is "happy with the way her family is right now" and that she doesn't need to have kids right now. And how dare he imply that she should have kids?! Well, DH was shocked/surprised and by the time I got back from the bathroom, the whole thing had passed, so he told me about it in the car a few minutes later. He was upset about it because she has been acting so strangely.
I do not get her nutty behavior. She has always been sensitive, but honest to god, I haven't done a thing to upset her. I know she isn't TTC because she has specifically said she wasn't going to until after she has been employed for a while. I know they didn't TTC before because she was open about that they weren't. She has been bugging me to have kids for years. I don't think she is jealous I am PG.
The *only* thing I can think of is that she might be jealous of what she perceives as people "paying attention" to me.
I have been upset about how she is acting because I was so hopeful she would be interested in being an active Aunt. Plus I know I would be crazy-excited-over-the-moon if she were PG. I would be so excited to be an Aunt.
I just don't know what to do. I have warned DH just not to say anything to her, and I don't pay much attention to the rude things she says to me.
Any advice? Anyone experience something similar?
I have thought about just having a heart-to-heart with her about it and asking what is wrong, but she is very sensitive and I don't want to make things worse. I just keep hoping it will "blow over".
I am so disappointed about the whole thing.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Re: Don't know what to make of my Sister (long)
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
To make you feel my love.
I agree it sounds like she is jealous. She could also be upset that you cut her out of the loop when she sent your personal email to your dad. It sounds likes she's somewhat immature and maybe she's just having a hard time coping. She could also be TTA
BFP #5: 3/25/2015: EDD: 12/8/2015.