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demanding family
My husband and I have been married for almost two years and have had a great relationship so far. His parents have always been loving towards us both and we have a good relationship. My only problem with our relationship is that they can be demanding. There is a family wedding that we were supposed to attend but have decided against it as it is a long transit and we would have to spend the night somewhere close by.
I am currently attending university and exams are just a few days away. Two days away from home can negatively affect my study time and so we decided not to go. My father in law called last night however, and has stated that we 'have' to go. My husband has stood his ground and said 'we'll see'. What is the polite way to decline as well as how do we stop these demands and help them to understand that we are adults now and are entitled to make our own decisions.
Re: demanding family
Thanks WendyGR. We will be doing that today. I will post the outcome. It is definitely taking so getting used to. My parents are laid back people and so has been a culture shock for me.
They are otherwise very kind, thoughtful people
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He needs to stand by you. And he needs to tell his father the subject is closed.
So let me get this straight? You RSVP'ed for a wedding, something that you knew about weeks in advance along with your class and exam schedule, and at the last minute you decline and you are SHOCKED at the backlash?
granted, your FIL should not b
My husband used to always played the "I'm not sure... we'll see... I'll let you know" card with his folks and it DOES NOT WORK! It begs for an interrogation.
ILs - "You have to go." Husband - "No, unfortunately we can't make it." 
Just tell them you're not going and leave it at that. Change the subject if they persist.
That said, if you RSVP'd yes, it's really rude to back out at the last minute, especially due to a schedule you knew about when RSVPing. I hope
We didn't get an invitation officially. My MIL called a few days before and told us we were invited. Apparently the family called her and said that the invitation extended to us as well. We told them that we were not sure and would have to discuss it b
Yay! Thank you for the update!
Wow, how rude they were being!