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bite the bullet? Gun debate with husband
Hi ladies!
H and I recently had our first big disagreement/fight. We tabled it because we never go to bed mad, and it hasn't been brought up since, but I know we will be dealing with it again soon.
H really wants to buy a gun and I really don't want a firearm in my home.
H wants it for protection.
Maybe if we had a house instead of a 1 bedroom apartment on the 4th floor, it would be a different story. First, I don't worry about break-ins because we are not on ground floor. Second, since we have a such a small apartment, we obviously wouldn't be keeping it in a gun safe. H says that when we have a house/kids, it would be locked up in a gun safe. How much protection does that offer if someone is breaking in and you have to retrieve they key, unlock the safe, and load the gun?! Don't get me wrong, I'd rather it be locked up and unloaded...it just doesn't support his "for protection" argument very well (but certainly don't want it loaded on top of the closet or anything!!)
I HATE guns. SO much. I was not raised in a house that kept a gun for protection, hunting, or anything. They freak me out and I absolutely do not DO NOT want one ever, but especially when we have kids. I can't think of a compromise here. H has pretty much said he he getting one regardless and I'm trying not to overreact but it's a HUGE deal for me and I am NOT okay with it.
H is very political and I feel like the only reason he has to have a gun all of the sudden if because of the gun control debate. He looks at it as making a statement - he can and will buy a gun just so he can "stick" it to the gov't and all the liberals who advocate for gun control (such as me). We are so divided on all political issues, this one included.. however this is an issue that actually impacts our life since he is so adamant that he is getting a gun.
How do I approach this next time H brings it up? Am I overreacting? Any of you ladies dealing with something similar? HELP!
Re: bite the bullet? Gun debate with husband
We recently had the same discussion, although its not really political here. I'm the same way and grew up in a house without guns (or at least I thought....now I'm learning my dad did have a shotgun). I think I'm uncomfortable with getting a gun becaus
Aro: I COMPLETELY agree with you! I don't think you're overreacting at all.
I did not grow up in a house with guns, I've never touched a gun, and hopefully never will.
DH mentioned maybe getting a gun someday for protection, but I QUICKLY s
I'd ask your H why he wants one. If he says "protection" ask why he feels like you guys might be in the situation to use one. And I suggest telling him how uncomfortable you are with guns and WHY.
I don't like guns either becau
I can see both sides of this because I used to be the person that hated guns. My ex husband was in the military, so of course he had them and also grew up hunting and they were always around him. I grew up completely opposite of that.  
I think ystaalenberg made some very good points, especially since she's a gun owner.
I myself am not a believer in needing a gun, and neither is H. I'm not completely opposed to them, I just never have felt the need. Growing up we had a BB