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I'm tired of all the "help"
I might sound bratty here, but I am so tired of MIL and her "help." We were very clear about not wanting people in the waiting room at the hospital. We said we would call when we were ready for visitors. About 5 minutes after delivering E, the nurse asked if I wanted my visitor to come in. Yeah, she had been waiting in the waiting room since she found out I was in labor. I said no and made her wait until we were settled and had some breakfast, but I'm really upset that she ignored our request.
Also, we left a key outside for my mom so she could take care of the cats. We forgot our camera and asked MIL to get it and told her where the key was. While we in the hospital, she helped out by completely reorganizing the kitchen which now features an ugly plastic bin when you walk in. I don't know where half my stuff is. She also left me a bouquet of lilies, which we have told her we can't have in the house because they can be deadly for cats. We threw them out and she got mad and came over to go through the dumpster so she could take them home.
She also did laundry. We have a brand new jug of free and clear detergent because I am allergic to other kinds. I put on a nightgown the night we got home and noticed it smelled perfumey. She had bought a thing of Tide and washed all my clothes in it, which means I have to re wash everything. She also must have washed or dried everything on hot/high because she shrunk H's pants and a bunch of baby clothes.
She has had to see the baby every single day except for yesterday and today and that is only because she is out of town. She is coming over tomorrow and I don't want her to do anything. I know she loves E and wants to spend time with her, but she is exhausting me.
Just a vent!
Re: I'm tired of all the "help"
I am so worried about this! How do you settle into your own flow of life with your new family when people are always around. A and I talk about setting boundaries now, but what if we need the 'help' and end up eating our words?
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That would annoy the crap out of me. I wouldn't let either of our moms "help" with anything when they visited because I like things the way I do them and would just get annoyed if they did it differently. Rearranged your kitchen?! Sorry, hun.
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I'm sorry that sucks. I am huge on boundaries and I think your DH needs to have a talk with his mom and tell her she went too far. That you guys appreciate that she wants to help but that if/when you need help you guys will come to her.
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I would be annoyed too if my MIL had done all that! She is overstepping way too much. I hope your DH can speak with her and set boundaries and she gives you time to get established as your own family.
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