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Confessions
We used to do a weekly confessions post which I think needs to be revived...because I'm bored.
Re: Confessions
My little nuggets
I quit my job.
I don't have a new one yet.
I was just about to post almost the exact same thing.
Oh, I'm right there with you!
I return to work in a month and I am emotionally scared to leave DS even though DS will be with my parents and DH. My job relocated to the burbs so this is a whole new experience for me after working in CC my whole career.
I also may have cried while packing away DS's newborn clothes including his homecoming outfit today.
I am already aggravated planning the christening party.
Tracy- what a strong decision. Good luck!
I think the heart and soul of the women's movement is about having options and making choices for oneself, as opposed to what is expected of us. So, if you choose to be a homemaker, I cannot see how it sets back the women's movement.
ditto!
I like the idea working, especially now that I am a mom. That sounds horrible, I know. My DD is going through major separation anxiety right now and it is seriously wearing on me. I am not a touchy-feely person so this has really thrown me for a loop. I want her to learn that it is okay that I am not holding her for all of her waking hours, but I have no idea how to teach someone this (and I realize she's probably too young to learn) who cannot communicate (no, I've never had a pet either). I am nervous for the summer when I am home with her...and even more nervous that I won't be able to find a job for this fall. I just don't know what to do with her - she seems so bored with me at home.
As much as I love her, I just don't think I am a "baby" person. Mom of the year.
Sometimes I feel like I am missing an important component required for motherhood.
Realistically, I know you're right. But somehow I just feel like I'm betraying all of the things women before us fought for. It's silly.
Oh and I also feel lazy for not wanting to work, but that's just the slob in me, ha.
I have no kids and I beg my h to allow me to be trophy wife...I would need to hit the gym more but I have more time for that haha
I had dreams of being a housewife. Not a stay at home mom, but a housewife. But I'll settle for SAHM. I told my job I'm not returning to work after the baby comes! Well, at least not full time. I've suggested ways I can work part time from home and on nights/weekends. Still waiting to hear back on if that's something they are interested in or not. Anyone interested in a legal secretary job come the end of August?
I was bored my entire maternity leave. I felt fine and all DS did was sleep.
I didn't do well with the snuggly baby phase but I love the defiant toddler stage. He is so much more interactive and you can literally see him learning new things every day. I like toddlers so so so much more than little babies.
I am the only one at work today. I'm not going lie...I have done the absolute bare minimum today, and spent the rest of the day planning our 2nd anniversary next Tuesday (!), working on an itinerary for Italy, and buying my nephew a few things for his 3rd birthday this weekend.
I finally started applying to some new positions but feel like all they will do is look at my resume and laugh. All I want is a basic administrative job/service position maybe in a hospital? I know I am well qualified and smart and awesome but I feel like that is not going to show through on the online application or my resume (which sucks).
This whole finding a new job thing and lack of income verse DH is really breaking me and I hate that I am allowing it. It makes me regret past decisions and just sends me in a spiral of craziness that I know I cannot change now. I am usually a positive person but not lately.
Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
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Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
Anna Capri 5.4.11
I do not have the SAHM gene in me. I just cannot be home with my daughter 24/7. I don't have the patience and stamina and I like to work. Don't feel bad. You're not alone!
If you want to start in a hospital, consider either taking a volunteer position or using your networks to find someone who works in one and can get you in the door.
I have so little time anymore that I haven't worked out in forever. Though I'm in school I work more then I did when I had a paying 40 hour/week paying job.
I'm completely sedentary though I've been able to maintain my weight somehow. I'm starting to do some stuff around the house like lifting and yoga. Once school's out I'm going to work on getting more active. I feel like shiiit not working out at all.
We have begun to look at houses- outside the city. This makes me incredibly sad, and like I'm going to be a sellout. I hate the thought of leaving the city- I love my house, I can walk to work (and will lose my job when we do move), and I know everyone in our neighborhood. DD is signed up for pre-school that I can walk to next year from our current house...but the reality is we are out of space and need to look ahead at schools, and I'm just not comfortable with our public schools in Philly (or the local Catholic options, actually).
I hope you can take more time off! I'm working at home 3 days/week and I feel a little guilty about it, too. But, my situation is different than other moms b/c we have so many doctors appointments... in the end, I get more work done when I'm at home though. Maybe you can ask about working from home a few days a week if they can't give you more time off.
I agree with this 100%!
Totally late to this buuuut here are my thoughts...
I'd LOVE to be a SAHM and wanted to quit my job when my maternity leave ended. I felt like the world's worst mom for leaving my little guy. I still miss him dearly when I'm at work but last week I stayed home sick with him one day. We were both sick and it was not fun. He was completely bored with me and I wanted to be selfish and lay on the couch and watch the DV-R which he was not having.
I've joined a 30 day fitness challenge. I lost 3 pounds the first week, gained a half pound this week and cheated a million times. I am the world's worst sweet tooth and no will power. UGH Today I challenged myself to not eat baked goods this week. I walked into work to a cookie tray and well, I'm sure you know how this one ends.
My sister in law has the WORST grammar and spelling. It is embarrassing. I'm not talking missing an ' here and there or an autocorrect spelling mistake. I mean all out she does not know there from their or that yas is not proper. I get that people use slang on FB and in emails but I've seen some of the emails she sends for work to the parents at her school and she uses the same language. I'd fire her if I were her boss.
Finally... I was SUPER scared to join in any of the FB games... scared someone would recognize me and think I was weird for being on here and having all these interwebz friends who I feel like I know in real life but don't. Then I realized you are all as crazy as I am :-) I was also really jealous of how close everyone was when I saw about a care package you guys sent to someone a while ago and I felt super cool when I was asked to join in this time... WOOO HOO!
Right there with you!