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Motorcycles
Jeff wants one. He asked a few months ago and I veto'd. I trust him, but not other people, which is what I said to him. Doesn't help Jeff lost 2 NCOs in his unit from motorcycle accidents in the 2-3 years we were dating. And the list of people I know that have been hurt on them.
He's been "casually" mentioning taking a ride on the ones his CWs have... and I've been casually saying "oh that's nice/neat/cool".
Yesterday, he asked if he could get one, if he pays for it in full by saving his monthly spending money. He will stop eating fast food all together. Which is something I've been wanting him to do. I mean it's going to take a while, since we have $100 spending money each month. And I'm hoping by the time he has enough, it'll be baby time, and he'll move on. I've also put things on it like helmets, taking the class at cecil CC, etc.
So, should I give in knowing it's going to take a while and maybe he moves on (I know if he doesn't move on and saves the money we will have a motorcycle). Or stand my ground. I just don't want him to get hurt, but he's also a grown man...
Re: Motorcycles
N has one. For awhile all of his friends had one and they would ride together. it was definitely a good recreational activity bc once it was paid for there wasn't much cost associated with it. Do you live in DE? If so, the insurance is a LOT. Taking the course will reduce his insurance.
Obviously always wearing a helmet- and N went as far as to always wear gear, like a jacket and appropriate pants and boots.
N never rides his anymore and lists it on craigslist all the time, but it could be worse....
Im not a good one to ask because I love motorcycles. But I also know the dangers of them as well. Like you said, you just cant trust other people on the road.
I think if its something he rides just for enjoyment and not an everyday vehicle he would be safer. Cruising back roads, Sunday rides and things like that I would agree to. But I wouldnt be thrilled with the idea of him riding at night or during rush hours.
I know a lot of people that only ride in packs. Its much safer because they are more noticable that way. Living where I do, there are a lot of people that ride on the weekends only. There is an entire road that people ride from Wilmington all the way to Dover.
I think if he can actually save up the money himself he is showing that this is something that he is serious about. But also remind him of the fact that he has 2 children and a wife to come home safely for.
Steph - We're in MD, so I have no idea what the ins will be. Jeff said $30/mon, but I'm pretty sure he just threw out a number.
Jill - I asked when he wanted to ride, he wants to go to work on it a few days a week... and wants me to ride with him on weekends. You bring up good points... esp since he goes into work AT NIGHT. I'll have to bring this up. I think the only reason why I'm reconsidering it, is the fact he will give up fast food to pay for it! Seriously, the man went to McD 13 times last month - 13!!!! He must REALLY want it. And it's cheaper than the other things he wants - another diesel truck or a hotrod. He said none of those, if he gets a bike.
I would not let Ben get a motorcycle. I don't trust other people, and accidents happen and if Ben is going to get in one I'd one it to be in a car not on a motorcycle.
and once I say no about something i'm pretty ademant to not change my mind.
The Rowdy Roberts
I understand why you would be resistant. I would be too. My cousins all have them and work on them and etc. My one cousin was in a really bad accident once and was in a coma for like 6 months. He used to be a motorcycle mechanic and was test driving a bike after he had fixed it. A girl backed up at full speed right into him. He flew off of the bike and sort of bounced on the road. He came out of the coma and he's fine now but he had some brain damage and he's definitely not the same as he was before the accident. It was a long recovery for him.
That being said, if he's willing to give up the fast food, I would let him do it. If he's anything like my H (which we all know that he is! LOL), giving up fast food for that long would be a big deal. If he was willing to do that, he must be really serious about it.
This is the only reason I said I'll think about it... he's been trying to save up for window tints ($100) and I think he's at like $20. If he really does it, he means business.
I'm waiting for him to bring it up (he already got fast food yesterday). I'm going to tell him I'd rather he save up his money for a hotrod, then a bike. More $$ but safer. And I would enjoy cruising in an old car or truck more than a bike