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Motorcycles
H wants one. He asked a few months ago and I veto'd. I trust him, but not other people, which is what I said to him. We live in a dense population and there's accidents ALL.THE.TIME! Doesn't help Jeff lost 2 NCOs in his unit from motorcycle accidents in the 2-3 years we were dating. And the list of people I know that have been hurt on them.
He's been "casually" mentioning taking a ride on the ones his CWs have... and I've been casually saying "oh that's nice/neat/cool".
Yesterday, he asked if he could get one, if he pays for it in full by saving his monthly spending money. He will stop eating fast food all together. Which is something I've been wanting him to do. I mean it's going to take a while, since we have $100 spending money each month. And I'm hoping by the time he has enough, it'll be baby time, and he'll move on. I've also put things on it like helmets, taking the class at the community college, etc.
So, should I give in knowing it's going to take a while and maybe he moves on (I know if he doesn't move on and saves the money we will have a motorcycle). Or stand my ground. I just don't want him to get hurt, but he's also a grown man...
Re: Motorcycles
I would stand my ground. Especially living where you do. People just don't look for motorcycles. H and I have talked about it before and he luckily has no interest.
I was put off motorcycles when I was very young. My dad sat my sister and I down and had us look closely at his hands. He has burn scars on both of his hands that go up his forearms. He was following a motorcycle that crashed and burst into flames. He stopped and pulled the guy off the bike badly burning his hands in the process. After that, neither of us had any interest in going anywhere near them.
You have every right to say no to this. DH and I have the same discussion about getting a boat. He said he could save up for it with his extra money, but it doesn't really work that way. Ultimately, any new vehicle, would be a expense on your budget for insurance, licensing, storage and up-keep. Is he going to save up for all of that as well?
I completely understand where you are coming from on this. If DH wanted a bike I would say no as well. It is really dangerous. If it were me I would stand my ground and just say no.
Stand your ground...
DH is an emergency medicine physician assistant. He (and others who work in the ER) call motorcycles "organ donor mobiles" from all of the accidents they've seen and how many lives are cut short. He's also seen plenty of cases of really nasty road rash that require multiple skin grafts as a result of motorcycle accidents.
I'm not saying that there aren't responsible motorcyclists...but accidents happen, and in this case accidents are very serious.
Stand your ground...
i had two ex's get in really bad accidents and my FIL's girlfriend's daughter just lost her husband in a motorcycle accident, he was t-boned by a guy in another truck who "didn't see him", only 22 years old and he left behind his pregnant wife...
i hate them!
Part of me wouldn't mind if we were just cruising on the back roads on weekends, not going to work in traffic.
BUT I think I'm going to wait for him to bring it up. I'm going to tell him I'd rather he save for a hotrod. More $$ but safer in the end. He's a gear head, and wants a toy... but I want him home at night! And we can cruise the backroads in a hotrod! Ohhh an old truck!!!