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Telling Parents
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How long did you wait to tell your parents? I'm roughly 4 weeks and DH wants to wait to let our parents know. I had my blood drawn todaay and I'll have my "official" results tomorrow after work.
My mom was here last night and it was really hard to not tell her and I'm going to see my dad on Saturday. He's even harder not to tell. Next week I have spend 3 hours in the car with my MIL.
Also, does the fear that it's not real go away once my tests come back?
Re: Telling Parents
We told my parents after our 6w appointment and we saw the heartbeat. We didn't tell anyone else though. I wanted my parents to be aware just in case I had another m/c. Plus, it was right around Mother's Day, so we did it as a Mother's Day gift.
We told at Christmas, which was fun because everyone was there and it was a surprise. It is a special memory for me. I was about 8 or 9 weeks. I hadn't had my dating ultrasound yet.
I would be tempted to tell on Mother's Day, but not if Dh isn't on board.
we are telling the sex on Mother's Day. I am excited about that.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
I told my parents the next day after I got my BFP. I was exactly 4 weeks. We told his parents that following weekend. Everyone else knew at 5 weeks.
I was nervous until my 10 weeks ultrasound. That was the first confirmation I had since my BFP that there was a baby in there. I looked at that ultrasound pic everyday after that ultrasound until we saw him/her again at 15 weeks.
I still have my nervous days, but my growing belly and baby's movements keep reminding me that it's still real.
We told our parents at 6 weeks. Same rule of thumb as telling anyone else, we knew if, God forbid, something went wrong we would tell them about that anyway so it didn't matter how early.
I would say the fear won't go away after official results from the doctor. My fear that it wasn't real didn't go away until my dating U/S at 8 weeks, and then like MOA said... it's a whole new fear at each appointment.
So it doesn't go away, but, it does get better!
This time we waited until after my NT scan at 12 weeks to tell pretty much anybody (except my BFF who guessed, and her husband, because we were on a week long vacation with them). My first pregnancy we told at about 6 weeks.
I wasn't convinced it was real until I saw several ultrasounds and felt movement. But I was scared the whole time.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
I really want to tell them Sunday! H is really not comfortable with it though. Boo.
Same here. Really, though, whatever you feel comfortable with is the right way to go. You know who will be supportive no matter what, so there is no wrong answer here.
My new bff Gayle Forman!
“You can have your wishes, your plans, but at the end of the day, it's out of your control"
- Gayle Forman
"People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality."
- Neil Gaiman
Married Bio
We told our immediate families a few days after my BFP. I told a few select people during 1st tri, because we hadn't told anyone but family the first time and I found myself wanting more support after my m/c. I told work around 14 weeks (I was starting to show). We went public on FB at Christmas. I was around 17 weeks.
Oh, and I'm still not so sure it's real. Haha.
fathers day is a good idea!
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
*TTC since 10/11*
BFP: 9/30/12, EDD: 6/15/13
*~*Our miracle arrived on 6/13/13*~*
BFP #5: 3/25/2015: EDD: 12/8/2015.
All of this! My first u/s was the day after Mother's Day and we saw the hb so we made a card with the u/s pic on it on the machine at Walgreens since evertyone had already yanked their cards. I was 6w1d
We told my parents around 5-6 weeks on Mother's Day. We didn't let them tell anyone. We told the rest of my family and his family when I was 10 weeks.
The fear got a little better at 20 weeks but to be honest the fear that something would go wrong didn't leave me until she got here and even now I worry about other things.