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Well this is something new....lol
So yesterday, my H & I get home from work, and when I checked our mail, there was something addressed to both of us which was obviously an invitation. We have a few friends who are engaged, so I assumed it was just an invite for one of the weddings or something like this, but when I opened it, it turned out to be an invitation to a christening. The invitation was post card form with photos of the baby (cute baby, btw) with the info for this in very light hard to read print. I?m looking at this thing, and have absolutely no clue who's child this even is. I show it to my husband, and he too is stumped. We were both looking at this thing scratching our heads and he is reading it, and sees that the names of the child's godparents are on the invitation, but nowhere on it, does it have the names of the parents. He knows the godparents - but they are people that we know from around the church (sort of, like maybe I met them once or twice) - we have absolutely no relationship with these people whatsoever. Still have no clue who the parents of this child are either. We are trying to figure out why we are even being invited to this thing? Like who does this?
I'm trying to figure out how they even got our address, but I?m just going to assume that my MIL gave it to them (and most likely insisted that we get invited to this because that's just something she would totally do).
I?m still laughing about it though - like seriously.....who does this? Invites people they have no relationship with whatsoever to something like this that is a personal family event? Really?
Re: Well this is something new....lol
Maybe you can scan the invitation in and darken it a bit and play with the darkness and contast buttons using a photo editor. See if that will get the print, name and address and other info to show up.
Well, we were able to read it, but its very tiny text and in a somewhat difficult to read font, but my husband had to look very closely at it...neither of the parents names are listed anywhere on the invite - just the godparents....which my h knows, but again, they are people we don't even talk to except for maybe the one time of the year we go to church and bump into them. I'm almost positive my MIL had them invite us, but still strange they even said ok, we will invite them. *shrugs*
Def not going....still have to laugh though because I certainly would not invite people I don't even know to something like this?
I somehow was invited to a baby shower for a woman I have never met in my life, thanks to my MIL. I did not go or send a gift. It was strange and I was not amused.
This will make me sound lame, but I go on the baby shower board on the bump a lot and you would be surprised how many people invite almost strangers to baby showers or things like a christening. I don't know if they are doing it for gifts or if they honestly believe that people would be offended if they aren't invited.
Good, I'm glad it's not just me that this has happened to. I'm almost positive this is because of my MIL since she's one of those people (rude) who expects to invite everyone from the church for stuff like this and expects others to do the same regardless of whether or not you know them (rude). She tried pulling this ish with my wedding too but since my h & I were the ones paying, we told her no, this not a church function where you invite everyone, this is our wedding. My MOH put her foot down to this nonsense too when she was planning my shower.
The only reason I'm mildly amused by this was because of our reaction when we opened the invitation. Like 'Surprise! Who's kid is this and why are we being invited?' lol
Btw - Did you say something to your MIL when that happened? What was her excuse?
Jeez! If they are doing it just for the gifts, that is just plain rude. I have a feeling this is why we were invited because we have no relationship with these people at all. My MIL does, but we certainly don't. I have no reason to be offended if we had not been invited to this.
Yeah I don't really know. I think part of it is a gift grab and part of it is that these people are so self absorbed that they honestly do believe that random people would be hurt if they are not invited to their baby shower.
If it makes you feel better, my mom is kinda like this too. She insists that we be invited or go to events for people we hardly know.
We actually did have a bit of a blow out because she wouldn't let it go that I get a baby shower gift for her friend's daughter.
Yea, but so self absorbed that you are going to invite people that you don't even know? Like, I?ve never even met the parents of this child. I don't even think my H has either. I've met the great grandmother, and the grandmother, as they are friends with my IL's, but my H & I personally do not have any relationship with them beyond the 'hi, how are you?' when we've run into them at the church (which is about twice a year).
So yea, we are not going at all. I just hope that my MIL doesn't keep hounding us about going because it's just annoying to keep having to tell her no. It's like the word 'no' doesn't compute with her. And this is actually not the first time this has happened with her either. My H is pretty good with dealing with her, but seriously, I?m going to wind up losing it on her one of these days just to finally get the point across.
With a christening, the gift is usually something of religious significance (at least it's supposed to be) or money. But I agree...to invite people just for the gifts, which is clearly what has happened in the case of our invite for this christening, is just plain rude.
I suppose I should not be surprised given who I am dealing with (MIL). She made planning my wedding a living nightmare with her demands that we invite all 165 of 'her people' (those were her exact words too) Luckily for me, my H & I paid for the entire wedding ourselves, in cash, so I put a stop to that nonsense (or rather, I made my H do it). For me, my wedding was a personal, private, special event and I wanted it to be filled with a room full of people that we know and love, not a room full of strangers just for the gifts. If I am lucky enough to have a child, the same will apply for their christening - it is a personal, private, special event for my child, not social hour for my MIL and 'her people'.
Actually, the christening is not happening in the church that we've gone to...my H & I seriously go to church maybe twice a year and it has never been to this church. So in the end, it turned out that since these people's mother is friends with my MIL/FIL, this was why we were invited. We are not going. Already told my IL's this, to their protests, but tough crap. We do not have relationship with these people are therefore are not going. I was pretty annoyed by my MIL's insistence that we go, but stood my ground that we aren't going. As it turns out anyway, we are away that weekend