May 2012 Weddings
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UnPopular Opinon Tuesday
I believe spanking kids is fine and often times works better than time out. I will spank my child if I feel they deserve it.
This has been a topic in my family and on TB lately and I'm shocked by how many people don't believe in spankings anymore. Maybe it's because I live in the south and we think differently I'm not sure.
Re: UnPopular Opinon Tuesday
I'm not sure how I feel about spanking. I was a really good kid
so I was never spanked, but I don't remember if my brothers were ever spanked. They were little hellions, so if they were they probably earned it.
I definitely think parenting trends have gotten lax. I see kids go crazy in a restaurant and the parents don't do anything about it. It drives me nuts! If we acted up we were taken outside until we calmed down or we missed dinner.
My unpopular opinion today is about proms. I don't understand how girls can get away with what they wear to prom nowadays. In my high school we weren't allowed to wear dresses with cutouts, they had to be a certain length, etc. Apparently those rules don't exist anymore because these girls are barely wearing anything, never mind formal attire. I'm really worried about what the style will be by the time I have kids!
I agree on both of these unpopular opinions...I was never really spanked but I did get a slap or two when deserved. Kids are so disrespectful and think they deserve everything given to them. There has to be some sort of disciplined.
Oh the dresses are horrible...no way would I be allowed to wear any of that in my day! NO WAY!! There is so many pretty dresses that you can still look good in.
I don't agree with spanking. A small swat on the butt, maybe. There are better ways to discipline your childen than using physical force. When I acted up out in public, I was taken outside and to the car until I calmed down. A lot parents just allow their screaming child to go on and disturb others. Another reason I do not agree with spanking is because my father had residual anger issues from the war. I feared my father for a very long time. He is a big man with big hands and a leather belt. While I have turned out fine, I just don't believe phsyical force is the answer. I'd use it only as a very last resort.
Prom dresses are certainly not what they used to be, that's for sure! I didn't go to prom, but a lot of the girls wore puffy sleeves and tea length dresses (this was the mid-90s). I also went to a Catholic school, so that probably had something to do with it. Times change. Wardrobes change. And not neccessarily for the good either!
I'm with you Melissa. I don't agree with spanking at all. For example: if you're trying to teach them to not hit/bite/do anything violent...then they hit someone and then you spank them....um ok, how confusing is that for a child!?
I think there's MANY other ways to discipline a child other than putting your hands on them in a forceful way.
I was never spanked, but I was fairly punished when I needed to be and I learned to show respect in a much less violent, but effective way.
My UO is that I hate when people don't use pacifiers for their baby. I don't understand why you'd rather listen to them scream and cry rather than stick a plug in it's mouth to quiet them down for a bit. I get that it's hard to take away at some point, but it's worth the risk in my opinion.
(I have a friend that doesn't use them....we were in a tiny car with her, her H, my H and the baby who wouldn't stop crying....and I wanted to jump out of the car it was so loud!)
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This was my comment as well. It's so weird when an older toddler is still using a pacifier!
Totally, 100% agreeing with you ladies on that! Not ok for children after a certain age!
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I'm loling at all the people without kids judging parents for their decisions.
Spanking - I understand that it's not everyone's choice, and for different reasons. MH and I were both spanked and have agreed to use it if we think it's needed to discipline our children. For parents that can find other, just as effective means of discipline... more power to ya.
Slutty Prom Dresses - Doesn't seem to be an unpopular opinion around here.. another reason I'm terrified to have a girl
Pacifiers - Some infants won't take a pacifier, so it's not always the parents choice to not give them one. If a pacifier really WAS a magical be quiet button, I'm sure they would probably be more likely to use one. When I was a baby I screamed and cried for no apparent reason and couldn't be contained by something as simple as a pacifier. Also, there are a million other reasons parents might choose not to use one. Maybe there's an allergy, maybe they've done research on the topic and decided it wasn't for them. I'm hoping with my whole heart something as simple as a pacifier will keep my kid quiet and I plan to try every paci out there until I find something that works. As far as the cut off age for pacifiers, you have no idea what that mom is going through. She might be trying to damnedest to get rid of it, or the kid might be a lot younger than you think, or it's just not the right time for that family. I know a mom who gets A LOT of grief for her daughter still having a pacifier, and it really annoys me to see the way people judge/treat her. She's an awesome mom and her daughter is SUPER smart and I just don't think it's fair for other people to think they know how to raise her daughter better than her.
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This. All of this. H and I were both spanked and have agreed that, if it gets that far, we will use the same methods as our parents. Spanking was always a last resort for our parents and neither of us grew up with anything but respect for them. That being said, I respect people who choose not to use it as a form of discipline. To each their own.
As far as the pacifier goes, my son happens to take to his well. However, there are times when he wants nothing to do with it and just wants to scream. I don't want to hear him screaming but if he doesn't want the pacifier, the he doesn't want it. I can't force it on him.