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Is this what wedding invites have come to?
My friend in Chicago got a wedding invite - emailed to her (its a friend of her boyfriend) with a reply button & an attachment for the details. And the attachment is a black text box with ugly green background that says:
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So & So
Invite you to come celebrate their marriage on July 6th 7 pm for drinks and hors' doeuvres
at Mortons
No boxed gifts please, envelopes preferred
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So let me get this straight, you don't want to spend any money on an invite, you don't want to feed me dinner but you want me to give you a big fat envelope full of cash! WTF! Apparently the couple is pretty well off so its not a cost savings thing. I told her to wrap the biggest gaudiest box and put an envelope in it with a donation to a charity. Where is Emily Post or Miss Manners when you need her!
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
Re: Is this what wedding invites have come to?
Wow!
My boss and I just had an invite discussion last week. They are attending a OOT wedding in Colorado next week. They just received the invite last week, although they did get a STD prior. You could either mail back the response (no stamp) or login to their wedding website to respond.
Maybe I am old fashion, but I think you can send someone an invite in the mail. And the whole mention of a gift at all is so beyond tacky I can't handle it.
unbelievable!
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
Incredible!! I like your idea of a gift, Sheila!
And, I don't think it's a trend - just a reflection of the couple and their tackiness. I went to a cousin's fancy East Coast wedding last Fall and everything leading up to the wedding was nothing like the stories you and Kris shared!
My three sons!
I will also add that my sister got married a few weeks ago and had gorgeous invites and no mention of gifts and my brother's BFF is getting married next week and they also sent a lovely invite with no mention of gifts.
Agreed. How does NO envelope or box work for them? :P
OMG! I could get over the electronic invite...not something I would do, and something I hope does not become a trend, but I could give it the side eye and move on. It's the specific gift request that I find appalling. How can you seriously be so clueless to think that is acceptable?
I think I would go and bring an envelope like they requested. My envelope would not contain a card or cash, since they just said envelopes were preferred.
ETA: Or I would buy them a salt shaker and wrap in a large sized moving box.
That is horrible! I always give money at weddings but I think I would make an exception on that one! Maybe I would send the wedding gift directly to their house in order to honor their wish of having no boxes at the wedding!
ETA: I would also be inclined to drop an empty envelope (without my name on it) in their card box! Hehe.
That is sooo tacky! Agreed that an empty envelope would be suitable!
I just got invited to a baby shower and on the registry it said, "please include gift receipts with gifts". I thought that was distasteful, but this takes the cake!
I hate when people say what kinds of gifts they would like to have. I was invited to a baby shower for a second baby, only 1.5 years after her first shower. Which I think is tacky enough, but then they had the nerve to specify that we were only supposed to buy clothes and diapers.
Sorry, I'm busy buying clothes and diapers for my own kids. I bought you a very nice shower gift less than 2 years ago.
amen sista!