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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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The problem with Facebook...
is that people you never had anything in common with see you on there and decide that now is the time to be buddies.
A girl I went to high school with just sent me a friend request. I have not seen her since she dropped out half way through senior year, pregnant. That was in 1994. Now I have to make a couple of small talk wall posts, and then never talk to her again.
When I signed up for Facebook, I was the first person from my high school graduating class on there. Now we are up to 23 or so, out of 70-ish. I wonder how many more of these I'll have to deal with...
Re: The problem with Facebook...
One of my best FB moments was when I guy I went to college sent me a friend request...I remembered him (we worked on the school paper together!) so I accepted.
Next thing I know, I get an IM from him...asking "I know I should remember you...but I don't. WE knew each other at UM?"
I was like, "Dude, if YOU're asking me to be my friend, shouldn't you know me at least?"
Apparently not.
But I get your pain. I hate the friend requests from people I no longer recognize and/or talk to...
Ignore or Reject. Ignoring is better because then they can continue to friend you.
That is hilarious.
It's been nice reconnecting with some people from high school. But others, like the ones I never hung out with...it's like, why bother? I don't even live in that part of the country, so it's not like I'll be meeting up with them any time soon.
Actually, I'm looking through this new person's photos right now. Holy crap, has she aged well. She was always cute, but sort of non-descript. She's gorgeous now. Even after two or three kids (I can't really tell if they are all hers). Maybe if I looked that good, I'd friend everyone from my past too.
I always feel guilty ignoring. I suppose I should get over it. I think my inner 15 year old screams, "you don't want everyone to think you are a b1tch!"
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You know what's worse? When you run into someone that you hadn't seen since graduation, and you thought you were such great friends (aside from not having any contact for 17 years) and they friend you but don't answer any of your messages or communicate with you in any way?
I guess I'm a little bitter about it. Why accept a friend request if you're not going to talk to me? Let that be a lesson to y'all: just ignore the friend requests unless you want to talk to them.
I've reconnected with some good friends from HS, college and even middle school and luckily haven't had anyone I don't really know try to contact me much.
However, I do have some guy from college scamming on me now that I changed my relationship status from "married". We hooked up a few times but nothing serious, didn't know each other that well and plus he lives far away. Weird. I'm going with the ignore-his-flirty-messages tactic for now.
This should make you feel better. Someone who I actively dislike (but who was in my larger circle of friends in college) has tried to friend me 3 times on FB. He's the only person I've ever rejected from friending me. I clicked "ignore" the first 2 times, but clearly he hasn't gotten the hint, because he sent me yet another request a month ago. Now I'm just letting it sit there, not clicking "accept" or "ignore," because that way he can't re-request. I know he has no desire to be friendly with me, but he just wants to be nosy and find out what I'm up to. He can suck it.
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I totally did this.I was going through pictures some friends were tagged in and I found a picute of me in one from MS, so I requested to friend the guy and ask him who he was, cause I don't remember him.
I've actually started accepting requests. There is no need for conversation and sometimes the inner b1tch in me just want to know what they are up to and compare it to my life. More than anything I'm astonished that a large portion of my classmates already have three kids and one still scares me.
I'm usually too curious not to accept. However, I've never gotten a request from someone I actively disliked - just people I never hung out with.
This is my exact situation. We don't chat or message each other via Facebook because we weren't really friends in HS, but we weren't really not friends, either. We just knew a lot of the same people and were friendly so it's interesting to see what they're up to now.
I'm actually a little disturbed at how many people I went to HS with either have 2 kids or are pregnant with #2 right now. I thought having 2 kids by the age of 26 went out of fashion in the early 80s. Apparently not at my HS.
Not in my hometown either. I was looking through my parents' church directory at Thanksgiving, and a girl I went to high school with had 4 kids. Four! The oldest one looked about 10.
A significant portion of people I went to high school with already have at least one kid. Maybe that's why my parents sometimes seem concerned that we're not considering kids yet.
I love all your stories.
The sister of a friend-turned-very-creepy-weirdo from HS just joined. I don't think I have it in me to deal with her brother. I'd like to take a pre-emptive reject and blocking him from even seeing that I have a profile, but then I feel like I've got to block a bunch of other people too and it's all just way too complicated. If he appears, I will stay strong and do what gtown does...ignore the request.
An abusive hated ex of mine tried to friend my best girl friend last month. It woudlnt be so weird if they hadnt HATED each other when we were dating.(I was 18 - 20 when we dated).
She called me and we had a really good laugh, then she rejected him LOL
This is why I love the friend lists. You can create one that limits what anyone in that group can see. e.g. no wall posts, no status, no photos, etc. Very good for people you don't really want to reject -- but also don't want knowing your regular goings-on.