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vent
Hi everyone,
I don't need advice or tips of any sort, i need to vent. I found out last night via my brothers fiancee that they had broken up. She later called and explained as to why:
she was going through their banking and paying bills when she came upon his cellphone bill that was a crazy $800! She was confused as to why, and proceeded to ask him, he claimed he did not know, so she phoned the company and asked for them to send her a statement with all text messages/ calls / internet usage. which they did and she was shocked to find out he has been looking at sexual dating sites and is a member of several of them, She confronted him and he said he has been unhappy for awhile but swears up and down he did not cheat, has only looked at these sites, in order to speak to these women you need to pay money to go further, so he feels it is not cheating, just looking. I don't care what he thinks, he went LOOKING for other options than what he currently had. But trying to explain to him what CHEATING is, is like pulling teeth, hes so darn hard headed.
I as his sister am devastated that he would do such a thing. His fiancee and mother of his daughter (who is 1 year today) is incredible, He finally got the family he wanted to have and he blew it, and lied and has caused so much sadness for the family... There is a birthday BBQ for my niece to celebrate tonight and its her mothers side of the family, she as well as their family have encouraged me to still attend, as i am not the one who did wrong and am still very much apart of the family. But i just feel so ashamed right now, being the sister of the cheater...He had it so damn good.. and he claims hes "unhappy And has been for awhile." And when asked "why wasn't this brought up before" he claims "i thought this was easier" It should not be like this, for anyone.
Re: vent
His actions are just that HIS actions.
Go and celebrate your nieces birthday and support her and her mother. If my brother did this I would love him but my support would be with the child and mother.
Yes. I agree with this. And if you are planning on cutting off your brother or taking a time out from him, it behooves you to be friendly with SIL, because you will still want to see your niece. And as you said, she did nothing wrong anyway.
I would go, be civil but cool to your brother, and then decide how you want to proceed after that.
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