Should I believe this?

NestCayla · May 2013

I had a girls lunch with a bunch of my old friends this past weekend. Most of my closest and oldest friends don't live in the same city as me, so I look forward to catching up with them. While lunching, a good friend of mine told me a statistic she read some where and I'm not sure what to believe. Normally, I would forget about things like this, but for some reason I can't get it out of my mind.

Here's what she said: "over 80% of married couples met who they were going to marry before they were 16 years old." (meaning: they met before they were 16, but they may not have dated until they were older)

Is this one of those crazy stats that's a total myth? Or is this just one of those legit stats?

BeckyOff · May 2013

http://www.snopes.com/weddings/newlywed/sweethearts.asp

Too bad there isn't a poll option on the Nest so we could see how Nesters stack up against statistics....

ReturnOfKuus · May 2013

I don't know anyone outside the internet who married anyone they knew in high school.

EastCoastBride · May 2013

Good ole' Snopes.

But yes, past that.... in a quick tally in my head of how my friends met their SO, I would say that NONE of them met in highschool. Most met in college or later.

SmrBrd2012 · May 2013

I know of two couples that met in high school before marrying. One of my best friends and one of my cousins. But in the grand scheme of things, 80% is waaaay too high for me to find it believable. Maybe in certain states...

ashleybunny8 · May 2013

DH and I met in high school.. we were 17. Many of our friends who dated in school actually wound up marrying each other, too. I'd say there is a 30/70 split in those that divorced aready (30% divorced). But hey, we are still young (22), so there is plenty of time for that.

Also, many people in our church/religion grow up around each other and end up marrying eventually.

Golden42 · May 2013

If we are talking about from our generation, then I know maybe 2 couples (one met while she was in high school, but he was in college locally so I don't think that really counts)? I imagine for our grandparents and even our parents this is a much higher percentage.

TarponMonoxide · May 2013

That might have been very true a generation ago or much earlier -- not anymore.

People tended to live where they were born and work in the same area. Nobody ever ventured out of the area back then.

You usually married somebody from the neighborhood or who you went to school with -- or you met somebody very local and married that person.

sillygoosegirl · May 2013

I was surprised at how many of my high school classmates were married to one another at our 10 year reunion. But it wasn't anywhere near 80%. More like 10-15%.

Kimbus22 · May 2013

I know one married couple who met in HS and are still married. Everyone else I know met their SO in college or after.

doglove · May 2013

I know only very few - maybe less than a handful and most of those actually started a relationship a long time after high school or college had ended and they ran into each other again for work.

I think any type of weird statistic like this is something you should question and not just outright believe. And if you have to ask, I think you might have a lot of learning to do.

Uberoom12 · May 2013

I doubt that this is really true. There is the possibility that it may happen, yes it is. But I thing is more probable that you find someone you really love after you are 23. Before that is just a simple crush with someone.

entropicbeauty · May 2013

I briefly dated my now husband in high school (17), but then we were apart for years before we got back together (22).

I think it's POSSIBLE to meet your future husband/wife in high school, I just don't think it's PROBABLE for most people.

leahkate · June 2013

I know several people who married their high school sweethearts, the first time.

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