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Just Venting....Moving aggrivation
So my husband and I are getting ready to move out of state.From West Virginia to North Carolina.I'm excited for the move but lately things have been feeling one sided.DH put in his two week notice at work about a week before I put in mine so he hasnt worked for the last week and a half.My last day is tomorrow. Well he and my cousin are suppose to be packing and cleaning while I'm at work during the day and I'm suppose to jump in when I get home.Great in theory...I have been giving them a list each day that has about 4-5 items on it.
I get home and if I'm lucky one or two things have been done if anything.To add to the aggrivation we bought my DH a cheaper GPS to get around with in NC cuz I have GPS on my phone,he doesn't. That was $100 plus we just spent $70 to stock up on juice for his e-cig.(There isn't a location in NC) I understand the need for getting this stuff before the move,but it just feels like they loaf around all day while I work and then we are spending money on his stuff and I feel I can't even afford undergarments.
I love my husband and normally when I ask for help he is there but he thinks we almost packed and the odds and ends left can be packed up friday when we get our rental truck.So while I've been at work instead of packing he is doing lots of "one last time before we move" things,like today he is golfing with a buddy. I just feel like everything has been dumped on my shoulders.Sorry so long,just needed to vent.
Re: Just Venting....Moving aggrivation
So, you are moving in a week, he is off of work, you are still working, you are not packed, and he is out golfing? Oh hell to the no!
But, here's the thing, have you communicated your financial stress and frustration with his help, or lack there of?
You feel this way because it has. He is off having a great time while (Mommy) you are working and packing.
Sit him down and tell him to help you and knock it off.
I think this is the crux of the issue. It's like I put a glass of milk on the counter and ask you and your husband to look at it. You see it half full, he sees it half empty. As far as he's concerned, the bulk of the packing is done. You're stressing out because as far as you're concerned, you're nowhere near started.
There also seems to be some resentment from the fact you're still working and he isn't. I'm not sure if there are reasons that led to you not doing it, but you could have turned in your notice the same time he did. It's almost like you want to punish him for turning his notice in sooner.