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To Honeymoon- or not to honeymoon.
Hi all-
My fiance and I are expecting our first little girl in August. We are so excited! Our wedding isn't until November, though. We have been debating on after the wedding if we should go on a honeymoon or not. When mentioning this to either of our parents (we are all very close) we are told that it's something we need to do as a couple, BUT basically that it is selfish of us to use our money for that instead of our baby. We are fortunate enough to be in good places with employment, very good places, so money has never been a problem for us, or do we see it being a problem. Do you think it is selfish of us if we go on a honeymoon? I am definitely not thinking some extravagant vacation, I'm thinking more of a short time but time that is just to the two of us.
Re: To Honeymoon- or not to honeymoon.
If you have the money to provide for your baby and go on a honey moon I don't think it's selfish. If you are asking them for money or other support or are incurring debt in order to go then I would not.
I know that I would not have wanted to leave for more than a weekend when M was that age so I would recommend leaving things open if possible. But that has nothing to do with money.
Wow! what a weird reaction in my opinion! Are you planning on neglecting your baby to be able to afford this vacation- or what are they thinking!
Honestly, unless you are hitting them up for money to support baby or to pay for your trip, then of course you should go! I am going to second what PP said though- I'm expecting in July and I can't imagine leaving my baby for any extended period of time just a couple months later. Maybe one thing you should consider is planning your honeymoon for your first anniversary- when you will feel more comfortable leaving baby alone. We ended up delaying our honeymoon for a year and a half because DH had just started a new job and couldn't take the time off. That didn't make it any less special. Just something to consider!
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A weekend - fine. More than that with such a small baby, I would postpone and take a longer time a year later.
Cash only to pay for it of course - no debt for this.
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I agree with this. I breastfed, and when DS was 3 months old I had trouble going out for more than 3 hours w/out pumping. I traveled for work at around 5 months and pumping every 3-4 hours on a trip is not super fun.