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Advice - Boyfriend MIA after meeting my son
I will try to make this as short as possible. I've been dating this guy
for a little over 3 months. He is the sweetest man I have ever been
with. We had started talking about the future and he said he was ready
to move forward with our relationship and wanted to meet my son. I
waited a few weeks after his request and had a small gathering with
friends to make it a little easier all the way around. He enjoyed
himself, we had time for just the 3 of us after the other guests left.
We played games, laughed a ton and just had a great time. I talked to
him later that night and he was thanking me saying he had a great time
and was excited. I noticed as the week went on he was texting and
calling less, so once the weekend came around I asked if something was
wrong. He told me he was sorry, he though he was ready. Being confused I
asked if he was trying to tell me he didn't want to date anymore and he
responded by saying that he was trying to piece that together. I asked
if he wanted to talk about it and he replied, "no, not yet." I told him I
could give him some space and he had no response. That was 9 days ago
and I haven't heard from him at all. I tried calling him over the
weekend and still no response. Do I assume that that was his way of
breaking up? Could he really just be taking this long to 'think'? I
don't want to pester him, but really need closure if he wants to end
things. How long do I wait to see if he contacts me? Any insight would
be greatly appreciated. This situation is breaking my heart. (background: we are both 30 - I am divorced with a 4 year old son)
Re: Advice - Boyfriend MIA after meeting my son
That was a really awful way for him to handle things.
I suppose he could still get in touch with you but it sounds like he ended it. I would be hurt and angry, he should have had the decency to get back to you.
Of course in the end you are better off but I am sure it hurts right now and I am sorry.
Well even if in the small chance he didn't break up with you, this does not bode well for his character. It isn't fair for him to leave you on the hook like this for so long. What a crappy thing to do.
Even if he didn't officially break up with you, you should do it yourself.
and next time keep your son out of your dating life he doesn't need to meet and be involved with men that wont be in his life long term
I think it would be safe to assume that this is his way of breaking things off. It's extreamly unfair and cowardly of him to not approach you and explain his feelings, and fears so there would be the possibility of you both slowing things back down, and continuing things the way you had been. If he cannot take the time to help you understand things, or have the diginity to say goodbye he is prolly not the right guy. Be thankful for the experience and the time that you had with this man, but also do not allow someone to walk out on you like such and come back. You deserve better and your time will come.
#Summer Love.