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yesterday i decided to go on POF just to see if my boyfriend changed his picture to the picture to the picture i took before we went to the brad paisley concert n his profile on POF (plenty of fish) where we met and  we have been together for almost 4months it will be 4 months on june 2nd i asked him y he says "looking for friends for us" witch i don't buy it what should i do

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  • I do not know anyone that uses Plenty of Fish for "friends". And the excuse "finding friends for us" sounds even worse. My friend had an ex who used that after dating and he used the "to find us friends" excuse... and needless to say... the word ex is strong lol 
  • I'm confused. So you went on this site "just to see if my boyfriend changed his picture," and when you got there you found something that upset you? From your wording, it sounds like you were assuming he still had an account and were hoping he had changed his picture. But now you're upset that he has an account?

    As for his reasoning, that is worrisome. I could see just forgetting you had the account and/or forgetting to update it, maybe, but it sound like he admitted that he still uses it. I've never been to POF, but I probably wouldn't buy the "friends" thing. 

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    I'd toss him back into the pool and keep looking. 
  • imagekrissii212:
    yesterday i decided to go on POF just to see if my boyfriend changed his picture to the picture to the picture i took before we went to the brad paisley concert n his profile on POF (plenty of fish) where we met and  we have been together for almost 4months it will be 4 months on june 2nd i asked him y he says "looking for friends for us" witch i don't buy it what should i do


    If you and he have an agreement that you are in a mutually exclusive relationship, he should have no recent activity on any dating website anywhere. In fact, his membership should be cancelled.

    4 months is much too early for you to decide whether or not hie's a good fit for you and whether or not he is somebody you want to date exclusively.

    You sound quite young -- why not get out there and see what else is available?  Don't forget to ask neighbors, family, friends and coworkers if they know of a nice guy about your age who is looking for a good girlfriend....that's you.;)

    They can vouch for the guy -- you'll know he's not some flake or fly by night.

    Plenty of Fish sounds..... fishy.  Try activities where you are sure to meet a guy who has the same interest as you.:)
  • I've only ever heard of POF as a dating site, and a sketchy one at that. So I'm also confused. Wouldn't you NOT want him to update his profile on there if you guys are exclusive? Do some people use it like FB?

    Either way, I would move on. He's sketchy and there really are plenty of fish in the sea, and plenty who won't troll dating sites while in a relationship.

  • 4 months is too long to waste on a guy who is not going to invest in you. You both can find friends together, it sounds like he is using you to occoupy himself until he finds something that appeases him, and you will be tossed to the side. I say an ultimatem is necessary in this situation. He should know better at four months.
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