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guilt over current situation
My wife and I have just been married for over a year. Since the beginning of the year, it's been one thing after another with health problems (seizures) and I have spent more than a month in the hospital after having surgery to stop them. We even had to celebrate our anniversary there, not the greatest place to have an anniversary.Time and again, she's been there for me asking for anything I need. I am so grateful to have found someone like that. I know it has to take a toll on her. Is there any way to stop feeling this way?
Re: guilt over current situation
**6.30.12** I have found the one whom my soul loves.
It need not be one of your denomination; it'll help to talk to a person of God.
There's also social workers at hospitals. Go talk to one and let that person know what's on your mind.
Wishing you luck. Health and happiness to you both.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I don't think English is the OP's first language.
Try not to, even though I know it can be difficult. I understand where you are coming from though!!! I had a seizure just days before we got married and our marriage so far has been me, in and out of doctors offices, specialists, many tests and tons tons of money spent. I didn't have insurance when my1st seizure happened, so that cost us a lot in our first few months of marriage. I started feeling so horrible about it and I expressed my feelings to my husband and he made me feel so much better.
You would be the same way with her if something were to happen and just keep reminding yourself of that! Vows, thru sickness and health! Sad that it happened so quickly, but seizures are able to be controlled as long as you stay on top of your medication and eat the right things, keep your stress level down! She loves you and married you!
She is there by your side because you are her husband. I'm sure it has taken some sort of toll on her, but she will be there for you and just try to be thankful that you have her by your side!!! 
Things will work out!! Best of luck, if you wanna talk fee free to ask
I just went and read that post- I agree that English may not be OP's first language and that the post was just poorly worded. (Or at least I HOPE that's the case!) From the rest of the post, I think basically he was asking if his wife should continue trying to win his mother over, or if a good relationship between his mother and his wife is a lost cause.