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Update: Opinions and voices needed!
So last week i wrote a vent message about how my brother had cheated on his fiancee and she was leaving, well turns out she didn't leave, family came to have a deep long talk to my brother (i was unaware of this till last night) But they going to couples therapy and my brother is spending more time with their daughter and trying to be more of a father and future husband, then a 28 yr old child.
So i was texting the mother (who is now girlfriend, not fiancee) and she was letting me know that things are slowly on track and such, but then she said something that floored me "Yep things are good, we are going to be going for baby #2 soon". I re read the message about 10 times and finally said "Oh? with everything that has happened?" and she said "well i want them close in age, and also i would rather have 2 babies with the same daddy then 2 babies with different ones" Again i was floored, so i asked "and if things do not work out?" and she said "I can take care of myself and the kids" I ended off by saying it was time for bed, but i was and still am trying to see how "wanting them close in age, and having 2 kids by the same daddy" are valid reasons for trying for another kid when you guys just about ended things.. If anyone can shed some light or give me some advice to look it in another light i would appreciate it.
Re: Update: Opinions and voices needed!
You know the answer to this - they are all bad reasons. But, there's nothing you can do. You are in no position to question their decisions as they are adults and can do a they please. I would, however, always be supportive of those children. You'll be their aunt no matter what happens between him and her.
She seems to want the kids for her. That's all I can think of? I think Joy hit the nail on the head, and this type of decision making process may explain why she has been with your brother all these years-they're both bad at it...
Things are unstable right now and she wants another child?
Even back in the day before there were divorces galore, we knew kids who were part of blended families and guess what ---- the "2 daddy" family kids were just fine.,
The only thing you can hope for: that no other kiddo enters this picture. Gee, how sad for one kid, let alone 2.:(
What she really needs to do: Bid this guy goodbye. He's a cheater. And she also will never be able to fully trust him.
This! No one who actually wants their relationship to work would add new baby stress to an already weak relationship.