Homebuying Hell!

Hi All,

This is my first post on The Nest, so if you don't mind, I am going to vent what has been going on during our first 8 months of marriage.  No offense, but it really gets to me how everyone nowadays has to post all these cute pictures on FB and on this site.  It's like every phase in life must be documented now.  My husband even teases me about this site.  He says, what's next "The Cane" or "The Coffin".  How to write a good eulogy?  Blogging about whether to cremate or be buried?  How about advice on choosing a good retirement community?  Believe me, I am not a web designer, but someone is taking of note of this idea and it is sure to come as this generation gets older.

The administrators will probably not even allow this honest post because it might dissuade others from posting their "cuteness."  Why do people feel the need to post their life?  Is it for immortality or a sense of purpose?  Is it like some kind of girly competition for who can be a better, happier, more glowing nester or nestie.  Here comes a bit of sarcastic bite in the style of Sara Silverman, but if you had it easy, I do not want to hear from you! The first story I read said "oh we were looking for a month" and now they just love their home! Seriously, a month?  And they were able to buy a full-on house?  Not happening on those budgets in Southern California.  It just feels like bragging!

We have been living squished in my husband's parent's house since last September looking for a condo the whole time.  We've been through three agents and two different loan officers.  We are dealing with a refinance on the mother's house at the same time as our first home purchase and none of it is easy!! 

I am all for technology.  Since we met on line, I even tried to post our love story on the site in order to give others hope (they didn't post it by the way!).  I love my husband very much and I know he is the one for me.  But our marriage has been tough!

No sooner had a I left my jobs and small town to come be with him in the big city of L.A. did I experience post wedding depression - BIG TIME!  I am not sure when wedding depression faded and housing depression set in.  Or maybe it's from having to start over looking for work in this employment market.

The hardest part is that when you are facing all of this, everyone expects you to be elated and euphorically happy.  After all, you are newlyweds, right?  It took our families and friends awhile to understand, but I feel actually much more sane with the support we have now.  Does anyone else get what I am saying?

Believe me, I will be ecstatic to finally close escrow in a month (if we can!), but don't expect to see a cutesy photo of us in front of our condo.   My biggest, most helpful advice is to ask lots of questions and drive around neighborhoods where you'd like to live.   Get ready to fetch lots of papers and documents -taxes, w2s, etc.  The internet can't answer everything for you.  You just dive in!

If you live somewhere else, count your blessings.  If you live in Southern California with these prices and interest rates shooting up, welcome to hell!