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Turned down the job, now regret it
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So I got the job, which I really wanted. And I turned it down. The pay was about 20% less then I am making now, which would be a big difference. I am the bread winner in the family and DH works construction, so it isn't always dependable. I was given the offer yesterday and had to give an answer by today. At my lunch, I went outside to call with full intentions of asking for more money, instead I froze, got really nervous and turned it down. Now I am regretting it. How do I get past that. I really dislike my current job, and have been here for a really long time. I am also scared of change. So I think the combination of everything got to me. How do I accept turning it down and move on, because right now, I keep thinking I should call and see if I can take it back, which I am sure they will think I am crazy for.
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Re: Turned down the job, now regret it
I work in HR and I would be turned off if someone declined and then called back inquiring about it again - I would think a) that person was holding out for another job and they didn't get it b) the person is having issues at current job and would make me suspicious that maybe they got fired and c) the person is indecisive.
I suggest working on negotiating skills (I agree with PP) and continue the job search.
Yeah, this. Don't bother calling back about the job, you declined it and you have to move on. I've had people decline and call me back later - why on earth would I consider them when they've already turned me down? The job wasn't good enough before, but now it is? Sorry, I've already moved on to the next candidate who is ecstatic to be offered the job.
Work on your negotiating skills and keep looking for a job more in line with the pay that you want.
If it has been only a few days, I would call back and see if you can't change your mind only after seeing if you can live on 20% less. If you can't then you can try to negotiate for a higher salary or ask how long it would take to get back up to what you are making.
I try to live within my means so if I have to take a cut in pay like I have had to do many times over my adult life I can still manage my living expenses. Then again, I have left jobs that I didn't fit into without any safety net which is scary itself.