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Melissa51212
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random post about wanting children
Me and H go back and forth on when and if we should have children...our money situation is kinda iffy and my health issues obviously play a role but I just watched this Oral B commercial about dads and I'm sitting in my office sobbing thinking about how awesome of a dad my H would make and I just hope we able to make it work...I basically left it in God's hands at this point.
I haven't really openly talked to any of my friends or family about it because its such a sensitive personal issue and I don't need other peoples opinions right now as we figure this out but I needed to vent to someone so thanks for reading
"Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly"
Re: random post about wanting children
It's honestly a really tough choice to make. But like you, I think about how great my H will be as a father, and I want nothing more than to be a mom.
With your health issues will you have a high risk pregnancy or will it be tough for you to get pregnant? I can't remember exactly what your health issue is (although I know it has to do with your heart.)
H and I aren't rolling in $, but with stable jobs, I know that we can manage bringing a child into the world. But if we waited until we had tons of extra money, we would probably be 60+ by the time we were "ready" which obviously wouldn't work!
I think that if you're able to plan, save, and adjust your finances, that you'll find that you're more financially ready than you think.
What does your H think? If he's on board with TTC, then it might be a good idea to start temping/charting because it will give you an idea of what your body is doing every month. I knew nothing about how ovulation etc. worked before...at all...and temping really gave me a better idea of what was going on.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I agree. If you wait until you're 100% financially ready, you'll be waiting forever! H and I aren't rolling in the $$ either but we both have stable jobs, a little bit in savings and we own our home. Sure we could have waited until we had saved more or bought a bigger house but we had our son when God gave us our son. I'm not going to lie. Being parents is the hardest thing that either of us have ever had to do but when I see my son's smile or hear his little giggle, it makes all of the financial stress, the lack of sleep and the worry worth it. No one will ever be 100% ready for a child. They change your life in ways that you didn't even know they would but I know I wouldn't give my son up for anything. It really was the best decision we've ever made.
That being said, it is a very personal decision. I'm sure you and your H will work out all of the details
Thanks Christine!
It will be high risk because my heart my not be able to handle a pregnancy, some people with my defect go into heart failure...but its a slim risk but I will be at the doctors a lot. We are going to my cardio doc next friday for a stress test and to talk about our options. My doc is actually pretty confident in my ability to have a decent pregnancy so that is comforting... We will see...my H is up in the air he is scared because of all the health risks and we really live check to check right now we both have good jobs but they are not high salary and we both have debt from college. So its just difficult to see how we could make it work at this point.
H & I are in the same boat as you financially. We feel like we're 100% ready to be parents except for the money. And while I realize we'll never be fully ready, at this point we couldn't afford to pay our bills, childcare AND feed/clothe the thing. I feel like we should be able to have those covered. We're also not in the living situation I would want with a baby. Our apartment's crappy and I'm sure it's covered in asbestos & lead paint. I would want to be in a nicer apartment or, ideally a house.
Meanwhile my biological clock is ticking. I constantly have to remind myself that I have plenty of time. While it may not be ideal, my cousin had a beautiful, healthy baby boy on Tuesday and she's 38.
Yea, I am 30 now and I am okay with waiting maybe other year or two to get things figured out as long as my health stays good...I have also came to the realization I would be okay with one happy kid.
Huge decision for anyone...at least we all have each other to vent too
OMGosh.. this has been on my mind SO MUCH lately. I have baby fever so bad! I even cried about it yesterday to my husband because another girl I know announced her pregnancy. It seems like its happening every day and its all around me and its making it so hard. We have never prevented pregnancy and I haven't gotten pregnant yet, so we are both scared something is wrong. But we also haven't been timing ST at all! So I'm hoping its just the timing. We are going to actually TRY this month with timing and stuff. I temp every morning and use FF every single day.
We both said we don't know if we're ready but if it happened we'd be happy. Its such a scary thing to think about because its SO permanent LOL we're like once it happens we cant go back so when is the right time!??!? I really hope I am able to get pregnant. Its so scary to think something might be wrong with me
Anyway, I've been needing to vent about this for SOO long!!!!! And I could go on and on about how we are feeling about this. I think there is also a LOT of peer pressure around me. I'm pretty much the only one left that hasn't had a baby within the people I know
I don't want this decision to end up being a peer pressure thing. I want to want it to happen ya know? But the question is, When and How..... obviously sex. But I think it's a lot deeper then that....
Baby Foster Due March 12, 2014 It's a BOY!
Engaged 12-12-10 Married 5-12-12 Baby 3-12-14
Call Me Mrs.Foster Blog
AHH so exciting!!!
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I'm glad your doctors are being positive!
I can understand your H's concerns, but hopefully your doctor can help it feel more at ease.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
Haha!! That just made me super nervous!! LOL that someone acknowledged it! But I would feel like a fraud if I went to the TTC board and did an intro lol
Baby Foster Due March 12, 2014 It's a BOY!
Engaged 12-12-10 Married 5-12-12 Baby 3-12-14
Call Me Mrs.Foster Blog