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Thank you gift for references?

Elizabeth81Elizabeth81
in August 2006 Weddings
If someone writes you a recommendation for a job, is it customary to send something as a thank you? I mean, more than a thank-you note? If so, what?
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Re: Thank you gift for references?

  • kmplskmpls member
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    I never have done anymore than thank them. I am interested to see what other say.
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  • IrishBrideNDIrishBrideND
    Dh just did this last week for his references for MBA school. But he was close to them outside of work as well, so it was easier. He made it a combo "happy holidays/thank you gift" so it wasn't as strange just in case they didn't like the idea of getting a gift for the reference.
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  • IrishBrideNDIrishBrideND
    oh and to actually answer your question as opposed to simply talking about myself...I don't think you need to. I would write a thank you note, but thats all.
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  • soprano87soprano87
    A thank-you note would be a lovely gesture.  That said, I've done several references and never gotten more than a thanks by email or in person.  I don't expect anything, b/c it's not really that much of an imposition.  I won't say yes to being a reference to anyone I'm not enthusiastic about.
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  • WinesNotWhinesWinesNotWhines
    I've never given a thank-you gift to references. A thank-you note would be nice though. A gift almost feels like bribery ("say something nice about me, and I'll give you this lovely bottle of wine!"). I know it's NOT bribery, but it feels weird to me for some reason.
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