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how many times should you forgive your wife
Was unfaithful twice. after first swore never happen again. also lied until proved. did it again. Said I will go. She begged me not to. says she loves and always will love me.Now the just sound like words. Never thought after 19 yrs I dont think she can change. any advice.
Re: how many times should you forgive your wife
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice....
You complete the rest.
You are probably in your 40s. You have no time for this kind of antedeluvian nonsense.
Cheating is a dealbreaker. Get rid of her today. GL.
Cheating is a total dealbreaker for me. Even if were willing to forgive once, she's showing you that this is a pattern for her. I also highly doubt it was just twice.
Think about this: are you ever going to trust her again? I mean, really trust? Will you be able to feel the same about her as you did before? If not, then there is really no repairing the relationship.
I do agree with the others, if it happens once, then something can be done, but if you have caught her again, it may not be just the second time around the same path.
The question here is ?do you trust her?? If you do continue your life, but remember that this may happen again. If you don?t, move on. A broken marriage has no fix. If you don?t trust then is all over.
70 times 70 times. Love isn't about what you get from another person, it's how much you can give. It takes incredible strength of heart to forgive someone who is hurting you over and over again, and quite honestly it is a kind of love that does not come naturally. If you can love her through this, then even if she continues to wrong you, you know that you did what was right.
After all...marriage vows include "For better or for worse", right?
Best of luck and so sorry to hear your pain!
LOL! I love the arbitrary decision that 70 times is the point where it becomes okay to stop putting up with this crap.
ETA: Oh, and no, love is not about how much you can give. Love is a give and take with the other person. If you have a relationship where you are giving and giving and the other person is just taking and hurting you in the process, you have a majorly screwed up relationship.
It's "for better AND for worse" (provided that they actually had this in their wedding), not "for better OR for worse." Big difference. There's no better here, just worse and more worse.
Are you the wife?
I would like to say God is all about love, if you really love your wife and want it to work you will forgive, but you must pray and ask God to help you see what will be right for you, I know he won't allowed you to be an a situation that is unhealthy but will help you get through any difficulty you maybe enduring. I pray all the best for you and your wife with a wonderful life.
Your god seems to allow a helluva lot of people to be in a helluva lot of unhealthy situations. What makes this guy special?