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Well that sucks...(Job Related)
My boss just got back from a meeting with the big boss, and due to budget cuts they will not be able to offer the per diem position like they had originally thought. I'm not upset with them, because I knew this could be a possibility, but now I'm stuck deciding what I want to do.
So my options are:
1. Decide to stay and work anywhere from 32 to 36 hours a week.
OR
2. Decide not to come back, which means I'll be a SAHM until I find a new job.
Right now I am waiting for HR to call me back and let me know if I still get paid family leave or not if I decide not to come back. I hope they call me soon because I have to make a decision by Monday. 
Re: Well that sucks...(Job Related)
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I heard a story about someone who did this and then had to pay the money back. But they didn't go back at all.
"Do the best you can, until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
-Maya Angelou
But FMLA doesn't mean you're getting money of any sort, just that you can take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave with your job guaranteed to be there when you return. And if she does get paid for any of that is up to the employer and their leave policies, but if that is the case that's why I am wondering if it'd make a difference if you went back for a little bit after. Then you can say you truly intended to keep working, but just can't manage or found another job or whatever the case may be. She may also find that going back and getting the extra money works better for their situation. It at least keeps options open and there's nothing to lose.
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Thank you everyone.
Im still waiting to hear from HR. I was going to be getting 12-14 weeks paid, depending on the type of birth, and it's like getting disability so it would be like 50-60% of my current pay. So I don't know if I'll be getting it now or not. If not, I'll technically be unemployed as of around September 1st. If I do get it, I will probably start looking for a job towards the end of leave. It all depends on what HR says.
The thought of just trying it has crossed my mind, but my boss flat out said "I know that if you planned on staying it would be for a while. I know you're not the type who would leave right after you got back". So I don't really have that option now without risking burning a bridge...
I brought up the bad news to DH last night and he wasn't happy. We didnt make any decisions because after I told him our options he said he didn't want to talk about it anymore.
I feel really horrible for putting this pressure on him. He's still in his 90 days until next month, so this is not the news we needed right now. Though I don't anticipate him losing his job, it's still nerve racking. There is no way we could manage me working as many hours as they need me to, due to childcare, but at the same time it's going to be tight if I can't get a job right away...and it's going to stress him out.
That really sucks, and I can kind of relate. I am desperate to get a new job so I can have more time with DH and our LO after my mat leave (I work 60 hours a week, different schedule each week). But, we just can't afford for me to have zero pay during my leave. We would survive, sure. But it's right before Christmas and our family lives out of state.
My current plan is to stay for a few months after mat leave, the whole time looking for something with less hours. That way I don't have to pay back my short term disability (same as you - 60%), I am still getting paid, and I will give a formal notice to my employer. It's not my favorite choice but it's the right one in the long run.
I hope you can get it sorted out!