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Stay at a job you hate?
I've always been a strong advocate of not quitting your job until you have another one lined up, but when you REALLY, REALLY hate your job, do you stay? Or do you leave and make finding a new job your full time job?
Re: Stay at a job you hate?
I have always believed that you do your best at a job, even if you hate it, to help support your family.
I would never quit a job I hated simply because I hated it. If I was being harassed or something, that would be different, but just quitting because you don't like it rubs me the wrong way. People put up with crap everyday- what makes me so special that I shouldn't have to?
If I wanted to quit because I hated my job, I would only do so if I already had another lined up.
That being said, I have stayed at a job I do not particularly like for over a year now. I am good at what I do, but the people I work with all suck and I am under-paid (in my opinion). But with so many people out there needing work, I am not about to take my job for granted.
I've been at a job I hate for oh...2.5 years now. I can't seem to find something worth moving for or it pays less, or I don't hear back, etc. I would never leave my current job without having something else lined up. But my salary is also vital to our current situation.
Unless you're working long hours and have children and not much time to job search, you should be able to find time to try to find something while working. I don't really consider looking for a job a full time job, IMO.
I've been stuck like you and it's not fun.
If you quit and go into an interview potential employers may ask themselves "Well will she quit this job if she doesn't like it, too?" So keep the job until you find the next job.
Make the decision to find a new job and then once it's made, go, go, go!
Write out what you love/like about your job. What do you wish you could do more of? What are your strengths or what are do you excel at? Are you interest in a new job doing the same thing or do you want to change careers? What do you envision your next job looking like? what are your values & priorities? Depending on the answers set goals for yourself to find something new.
Update your resume and create a LinkedIn account. Join groups that match what you want & begin contributing. Connect with as many people you know because they will advertise jobs on behalf of their company. It is all about who you know
Hope this helps!
Coach LizzyMc
I agree with the posters who say to stick it out and make finding a better job your "other job".
I've had jobs I didn't love that paid me very well, I've had my dream job, but it didn't pay enough. THAT was the heartbreaker, leaving a job that gave me the greatest pleasure but I couldn't afford to live on it and was drastically underpaid.
Presumably you will have a very long work life, and this job will not be the one you look back on fondly. But going into an interview unemployed and having to fake an answer about why you left is not fun.
Most people stick it out and find the job they love better. My 18 year old daughter loves a job that is a long drive, and they haven't given her enough hours (retail). She found a job closer to home where a friend works at a national grocery store chain. Her orientation is today. She hasn't quit the other job yet. She wants to make sure she loves this new job before quitting the old. I think she's making a pretty mature decision.
I'm currently still at my job. I have many reasons to leave, but I don't have a new job yet so I haven't.
Yesterday my boss came in and told me I looked "like a slob" and that I was showing too much arm and cleavage, even though I had no cleavage showing (I went to the restroom to check after this conversation). I was wearing an outfit that meets our dress code. The look was not "slob"y. My boss was wearing tee shirt and jeans at the time when she told me this.
I also have been promoted to a new job where I am doing management duties but I am not making the pay for a management position.
There are lots of other reasons, but I don't like coming home from work crying. It's not fun.
The comment about your appearance could become an HR issue. I am not an expert in that area though, so I wouldn't suggest acting on that until getting some input from someone else who knows more about that. It seems like making false comments about cleavage could be considered sexual harassment..??? But I don't know that pursuing that would make your life at work any better (unfortunately). If you are certain you want to leave anyway, I would just keep my head up and use that to fuel your job search!
Sorry you are dealing with this!
99% of the time I would tell you to just stick it out, but if you're fairly certain you can get a new job without too much difficulty and you REALLY hate the job, then go for it.
I have only once ever quit a job without having another one lined up. I was a manager for a franchised chain of a restaurant and they were making me work hours off the clock and telling me to do one thing and then yelling at me for doing it that way (etc. etc.). I've never hated a job so much, and it was so very beneath me so I quit. I had just gotten out of school a couple of months before that and I made looking for a job in my field my priority versus staying at a job where I was earning peanuts and not being respected.
I will admit it was 2 months before I was able to find another job, but I was able to live off of my savings successfully for those two months. If you don't have a buffer to cover your living expenses it might not be a good idea to quit.
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Everyone has pretty much summed it up but I agree you should stay till you have something else lined up. I worked a job I hated with every breath I had. I sat next to a woman, eight hours a day, who had anxiety/bipolar issues and treated me like an abusive spouse or something. If I turned my head and spoke to other coworkers, she would scream at me to face forward and do my work. I used to have to take days off just to take a mental break from her. I had countless interviews, and it took years before I finally got a job I like better. So even if you quit, you may not get a new job as fast as you think.
is your company's HR organized and professional enough that you can talk about that comment? That's way out of line. Too much arm?? Do you work for the Amish or something? Who complains about arm???
My husband quit a job he hated one day without having another one lined up. We had savings so I figured we could manage until he found another job. He's not the kind to worry and he spent his unemployed time working out, losing excess weight, and finished getting his bachelor's degree. He was unemployed for 6 months before he found a much better paying job that he liked in a slightly unrelated field.
I couldn't do that. I would be too nervous about money.
No one needs that kind of stress! I say look for a new job and use how miserable you are as motivation to find a better place to work. If you have a bad boss and a job that makes you miserable it affects everything in your life, I had a horrible boss and it took me 3 months to start a new job but it was worth it, I kept working my job and just searched hardcore for a new job online and used linked in and used all me networking from passed jobs that I enjoyed to find a new position. I make more money now and have better hours/working conditions! Good luck and I hope you can find a better job - sometimes looking takes a while but stick with it!!! I dont think anyone deserves a boss like that.