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Beyond lost & confused!
I am currently 8months pregnant with my fiance's child. We've been together for a little over a year now. Before we got pregnant we were having some issues. Because of his past relationship he has some serious trust issues. We took some time apart & I started talking to an ex of mine but then that stopped cause that's when I found out I was pregnant. Got back together with the father & then he proposed. My fiance is a great man but there's a part of me telling me this is a mistake & I shouldn't get married. So the problem is I don't know if these are all real feelings or pregnancy..
Re: Beyond lost & confused!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Because there is a baby on the way does NOT mean that you "have" to marry him. This is not 1960 and the stigma surrounding babies born minus marriage is pretty much dissolved.
If you have problems with him and he has trust issues, sorry: he is not a great man. He's somebody you need to move on from.
On your own, explore your options.
If you need help or somebody to talk to, try a social worker and/or your clergyperson (if you are spiritual). If you need resources --- food, money, a place to stay or medical assistance, see a social worker.
Decide whether you want to keep the child; if you do, your child's dad will have to pay you child support; that is no option for him but a must. It's also a sign of character. He shouldn't be given the permission to leave you and the kiddo hanging in the lurch while he pays nothing toward his child's support.
This. Plain and simple.
Ditto everyone else.
Just because you are pregnant does not mean you are obligated to marry this guy - especially if you are having doubts about him or the relationship.