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What about when its the boss who is bad-mouthing you.

To make a long story short it's the boss who is bad mouthing my work. I should have expected it, he bad mouths everyone to me so of course it goes that way. I've usually tried to use the opportunities to sway him to handle his issue with the employee directly. It ends well... I thought. Now I know he's just bad mouthing me to that employee. 

He took me off parts of a project while never clearly stating why. Coworker tells me he says it's because I kept screwing up little things. Yet, these are the pieces that he still has me working on? And why are these never addressed in my employment reviews?

I should add he's the boss and owner of a small office. There's no other boss or HR to speak to. 

Re: What about when its the boss who is bad-mouthing you.

  • I've seen this a thousand times in a thousand places. Usually it's these little poop small time nothing companies wher eyou see this kind of thing happen.

    Pick up the newspaper/go on line and find another job. You won't win this battle. These louts insist tot the end that it's white when it's been certified and proven it's black.
  • Thanks girls, I'm trying to be objective. It's been bad and I've been trying to not think too highly of myself and feel entitled. Yesterday seemed top be the final nail in being clear that this won't be my long-term home.
  • Yes, you have a decision to make.  It sounds like you already know what you need to do.
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  • I'm in the same boat. I'm not aware of my boss criticizing me to my co-workers (yet), but it is only a matter of time. She complains to me about my peers constantly!! My reviews consist of her comparing my work to other employees (for better or worse). Even just in casual conversation she brings up other people we work with. It's hardly ever about personal gossip, usually work related things, such as "I can't believe so and so was late again"  "I can't rely on that person to do anything" "Have you noticed the way this person doesn't follow protocol" Never in an educational or constructive way. I'm just not sure what to do. Like you I try to point out the positive and steer the conversation away but it is becoming more and more of a problem. I'm stuck in my job now until I'm through with grad school (one more year) and then will find another job. If you find something that resolves your situation, please share!!! 
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    I'm in the same boat. I'm not aware of my boss criticizing me to my co-workers (yet), but it is only a matter of time. She complains to me about my peers constantly!! My reviews consist of her comparing my work to other employees (for better or worse). Even just in casual conversation she brings up other people we work with. It's hardly ever about personal gossip, usually work related things, such as "I can't believe so and so was late again"  "I can't rely on that person to do anything" "Have you noticed the way this person doesn't follow protocol" Never in an educational or constructive way. I'm just not sure what to do. Like you I try to point out the positive and steer the conversation away but it is becoming more and more of a problem. I'm stuck in my job now until I'm through with grad school (one more year) and then will find another job. If you find something that resolves your situation, please share!!! 


    Haha, Can't believe the person is late, or can't follow protocol or not reliable to do anything?

    Then that's a managerial problem: THEY fumbled and then dropped the ball ont hat one. THEY are to blame, not the employee.

    Bosses that scream at people have screws loose. I worked for a woman who was like that -- we had to walk on eggs around her and you never knew when she'd lose it.

    She'd melt down and look like a 3 year old having a tantrum. I was convinced she had either a personality disorder or was emotionally unstable or both.

    She'd get into our emails -- all of them as per her orders, went into the office manager's email box! -- she would not let the men employees send faxes (never knew why) and everything you did and said was monitored.  she'd say horrible things about us and about employees no longer there. "There are a few people here I wold like to fire but I am not like that" WHEW...my goodness, thank our lucky starz!

    She was awful. And she owned the company. She'd spend time on the phone screaming at the person at the end -- we lost accounts because of the owner. She'd place the blame and claim it was becaue of another reason.

    There should be laws against bully bosses, the same as there are laws for bullying in schools. Bullying an employee should be a federal offense. I am not kidding.
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