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Oh heck no!
I'm about to get a little catty, be warned.
For our wedding, we invited this particular family because they are MIL's cousins she had not seen in awhile. We invited the parents and their two daughters, who are out of college. We only invited the four of them because they were the names MIL gave. DH didn't even remember who they were except for a family function about ten years ago. MIL was very insistent we invite them so we let her. Apparently no one in DH's family knew that one of the sisters was engaged and I certainly didn't, so of course, no invitation was extended to the fiance. That was my only etiquette blunder(I think) with their family and I honestly did not know and neither did DH's family until they showed up at the wedding.
During our honeymoon, this young lady friended me on fbook and started asking me questions about how we planned our wedding. No prob, I helped her out. Well she's probably asked me about fifteen questions since then, down to which etsy shop I purchased stuff from. I wasn't worried about the first half of them but now I'm just irritated. DH's family received their invitation to the wedding about a month ago, booked their trip to Michigan, etc. Guess what just arrived in the mail today? Our b-list invite. Okay, so in my eyes, the first offense is that we were clearly b-listed, since the wedding is in three weeks, and the in-laws received their invited with 8 weeks to go. The second offense is that she's asking me all of these questions and then b-lists us! The third offense happened when I opened the invitation: there was a registry enclosure in the wedding invitation, along with the hotel room information(which, incidentally, mentions that we needed to book our hotel rooms 9 days ago, DARN!).
You know, if we actually lived in Michigan or a surrounding state, I would consider going...maybe. However, we live in FLORIDA! To top it off, DH works for the government and his flight schedule is on a rotational basis. In order for him to actually take that much leave(two travel days and a day for the wedding), he has to ask off three months in advance.
She clearly doesn't know this and she's just trying to fill seats for her venue, right? Oh, to top it all off, she chose the ugly invitations MIL was trying to push over on to me while we were planning. Weak sauce, girly. Weak sauce.
Excuse me while I mark "regretfully declines" and march my happy tail off to the mailbox again...
Re: Oh heck no!
I believe the penalty for a B-List faux pas is to pass your regrets along on facebook and keep the stamp on the RSVP envelope.
Then again, that might be my PMS talking. Carry on.
58 invited
20 can't make it
RSVP Deadline: March 8th
55 invited
RSVP Deadline: March 1
Bahahaha! I really considered it. I sent them my rsvp and a heating pad off their registry in an effort to show her proper etiquette, although, she did not. I did, however, purchase the heating pad using a gift card to BB&B that I think her family gave us as our wedding present so we didn't actually lose any money on this little "situation" lol.