Please Help. Relationship Crisis.

PagiePoo95 · July 2013

My boyfriend and I are having problems. We very seldom have sex anymore. Its not my fault. Its his. He never wants to. I've tried everything from games to just giving up. He says he's just stressed and is tired. This is every night. When we do have sex its no more than 10 minutes. Please help me. I'm miserable.

SmrBrd2012 · July 2013

Does he have a legitimate reason for being stressed and tired? Like working 60+ hours a week? Any signs of depression? How long has this been going on and how often do you have sex now?

TarponMonoxide · July 2013

Have you talked to him? Maybe you should.

How long have you been dating him?

It very well could be the relationship is over, sorry to say.

Talk to him and if things do not improve you do the right thing and you cut bait and go first. Sorry for your troubles.

ETA:

A bit more backstory will help -- how long you've been seeing him,etc. I don't know -- maybe you and he have been together for a long time and its natural by now for the frequency of sex to drop off. Passion waxes and wanes.

Maybe you and he were having sex 4 times a week and now for the last few weeks, it's once a week or not at all -- only some examples and again, we can't help unless we have a more thorough backstory.

Backstory will help. If you can give us some, great.

ashleybunny8 · July 2013

he's just not that into you?

cut your losses and move on.

dancingphalanges · July 2013

Like you said, he is tired and stressed, and that could be contributing to him not being into sex right now. I would talk with him, explain that you are concerned, and ask if there is anything you can do to help his stress. Is the relationship fine otherwise?

arhayden1 · July 2013

Ditto to what the other posters are saying we need more story. What do you qualify as seldom, how long has this been going on. Is he emotional and physically distant? If its just a physical thing he may have a health issue that you are unaware of or just not feel well. If its both I think that indicates a problem. Is it just sex though is he also disconnected from other things in life such as friends and hobbies? If so he maybe depressed. Is there somewhere else he could be satisfying his needs? Also I think its important to know how long this has been going on if its been a couple weeks or a couple months. Its normal for people in general to go through phases where the just aren't in the mood and sometimes it just needs to pass, But if its been a few months I would start to do some probing. Either way even if you love the guy there is no need to stay in a relationship if you are miserable. Life is way to short to be unhappy and waste your time doing so. I get the feeling your still young and have plenty of time. As others have said. CUT YOU LOSES and be happy.

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