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Annoying BM the conclusion
The shower and b-party were this weekend. She showed up and was really cold to all of us. I tried to be nice but she didn't help with anything or offer to help at all. She brought her gluten free cupcakes and ate the parts of the meal that she could. She did not add a lunch like we offered.
After the shower I pulled all the bridesmaids to the side. We added up what we spent and divided it. She said she would not pay for any food since she couldn't eat it. She did not care that there were 10 people from her family there and that she was the only person from her family in the bridal party. Then she said she had to go to the ATM to get cash (I specifically asked everyone to bring cash for this reaso). She left to get cash and an hour later she hadn't returned. We had completed all cleanup at this time. We gave up and went to the bride and groom's apartment.
45 minutes later she shows up with 5 family members and they are all giving me dirty looks. I say nothing. I overhear her say to her cousin "I went to the ATM and realized my purse was still here. Oops". (The ATM was 2 blocks away). After an hour of awkwardness they start to say they are leaving. The grandmother calls her into the hall and she walks back holding money. She holds it for 10-15 minutes. Then walks away. Her mom comes back (who let's just say the apple didn't fall far from the tree) and thrusts the money at me and says "this is from ----" and walks away before I can say anything.
Then... This is the best. She gives the bride a card that says how she's always wanted a sister and loves her so much and that "you should take this and get a drink on me tonight... Wish I could be there" (at the b party).... And in the card is... NOTHING!!! Apparently her well fake wishes are currency.
I am SO glad that I'm done with her other than the wedding day and she's not really my issue as long as the bride isn't bothered.
Figured you all deserved to hear how it turned out after your support and ears to vent in the other posts!!!
Oh and she unfriended me on fb haha
Re: Annoying BM the conclusion
Im glad for you that you are done with this ridiculousness. Im sure you are so sad that you are not her fb friend!
These are the kind of situations where the only thing positive that can come out of it is your pride that you handled yourself in a classy and self-respecting way, as much as you probably wanted to get in an old fashioned hair pulling brawl with her!
Oh my. Bless her heart.
I'm sure you're thrilled to be done with that!
What cracks me up the most is that I guarantee you she truly feels like the 'victim' in this scenario. I can't even imagine the spin she must of put on it for her friends & family.
Kudos to you for handling it as well as you did.
Thanks ladies. I know she's the victim. Victim of her own miserableness.
Im so glad I'm done babysitting her. I feel bad that the bride is stuck with her till death do them part!