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Odd Work Thing - Lots of Emotions
So my water broke late Wednesday night (7/31). I had worked all day Wednesday. In fact, I was supposed to work Thursday and Friday as well. The planned c/s was for Monday (8/5 - today).
I wasn't super worried about missing work, all my FMLA paperwork had been turned in weeks ago. They are pretty understanding and had been teasing me that one day I wouldn't be coming in. I always laughed and said that there was no way as a FTM with a breech baby that he would want to come early. Oh well. :-)
So on Wednesday night/Thursday morning (at about 12:30 AM) I texted my coworker/lead and told her my water broke and we were on our way to the hospital. I knew that I would be having a c/s within the next day and a baby and I wouldn't be sent home or anything.
Martin was born at about 6:00 AM on Thursday. I got a text from my coworker/lead (we are friendly - she is a little older than me and has two kids) wanting to know Martin's weight and size and wanting me to send her a picture. Well, things were so busy I didn't get to it.
Our department is pretty small, about 25 people. Well, on Thursday our department management (there are three managers - one is a director) found out that a woman in our department committed suicide.
She and I had the same manager, she worked in a different area of the department, so I didn't know her very well, but it is upsetting. She was A friendly, upbeat person who was always making jokes and doing funny things.
My coworkers could tell something was wrong (a manager who was on vacation came into the office, our manger was so upset he went home).
On Friday they had the counselors and emergency assistance people come in, and had a meeting and told everyone (my director called DH and had him tell me). When DH told me, I called my coworker.
Apparently, when I didn't respond to the text from my coworker, she thought that something had happened to me and everyone was worried it was me that had had something horrible happen to me.
It is hard because I haven't been in the office, so I don't know the details, but I have been sad about it. I also feel really bad that my not responding made my coworkers worry about me.
I did reply to my coworker sending a picture and giving her the details (weight, length, etc) and she says she has shown everyone in the department and that it was nice to have something cheery to talk about.
Work had a shower for me only about two weeks ago and the coworker who passed away gave me some baby things and it has been hard seeing them. I am still in shock about the whole thing.
It doesn't help that my hormones are causing my emotions to be all over the place.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Re: Odd Work Thing - Lots of Emotions
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i'm sorry. it's normal to have sad emotions over it-you knew the person, it's understandable. i wouldn't worry about how your lack of response worried your coworkers. in all honesty, while i understand they were hyperaware because of the situation, they should have obviously assumed that you were busy birthing a child.
it's so sad when suicide takes over. and i speak that with personal experience. it's difficult not just for the person that took their life, but for those around them. it's very tragic.