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Bad friend?
I don't know how many of you are here, but I figured I'd give it a shot!
I am standing up in a wedding on December 28th. I got an email the other day from the MOH (who I have never met, nor have I met any other member of the BP) saying that the bride wants a destination bachelorette party to either Florida or New Orleans. I cannot afford it. There is no way. I am standing up in a November wedding, and we have a wedding in Florida at the beginning of Decemeber we are trying to save for. I just sent an email back saying that please go ahead with your plans, but I cannot attend. I feel bad, but I don't want to break the bank for a bachelorette party, especially when the holidays are right around the corner.
So please tell me to stop feeling bad, or tell me if I did the wrong thing and I need to suck it up and go. Thanks!
Re: Bad friend?
I think you did the right thing. I had a few girls bail on my bachelorette. Two for $$ reasons, one for scheduling conflicts. If you can't go and enjoy yourself, you'll probably just be worried about spending too much money the whole time, which might affect the whole group. I think it's better that you were up front and honest.
Buying a house on one "real" income has our finances extremely limited. I can't even afford to go to my cousin's wedding in Alabama in a few weeks and we just skipped DH's cousin's wedding in Michigan a couple of weeks ago. I've got one coming up in November that I'm trying to find a way to cut corners on financially(arriving the day of the bachelorette party instead of the night before, using hotel points at the Marriott nearby instead of paying to stay at the resort everyone else is staying at, etc).
Try not to worry too much, I'm sure they'll understand.