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C&P - I'm a terrible person
As I was lurking on WC - I came across this post:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/7990475.aspx
DH just took overtime for tonight 7:30 tonight until 7:30 tomorrow morning. He'd better plan on helping me get a ton of stuff done before then. Ugh. We have people coming tomorrow at 11 and I have a ton of stuff to do, that I can't get done with DS around.
I am a judgemental person!
What immediately comes to mind is - wait a minute - he took overtime (additional pay) and will be working a 12 hour shift and then be expected to host a gathering immediately following and you're whining about how you have so much to do and he better help you before he goes to work? Something is wrong with this picture. I would also say - get off your a$$ and quit nesting to take advantage of what time he is at home.
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Re: C&P - I'm a terrible person
Well, it might be that he isn't REALLY going to work, in which case he would be the jerk.
If they are so broke that he has to take an extra shift right before they have guests come over, maybe they shouldn't be hosting for the holidays.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that if he is working till 7:30 am, he's not going to be much help as a co-host. And despite best intentions, when you're hosting for holidays, there's almost always something that needs to get done fairly last minute, which is always easier without a child underfoot.
The minute or two it took her to post this vent probably doesn't make much difference in the grand scheme - it's not like another present would have been wrapped, or a side dish would have been completely made, or whatever. But being able to get this off her chest might have made it so she doesn't snap at her DC or H.
You're not a terrible person, but, yeah. I'm going to call judgey.
See I told you I was judgemental. I can see what you mean though, lots of things are much easier without a child underfoot - one the many reasons I don't have a child.
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I also wonder if they NEED the overtime. I know lots of men (well, and women) that would think, "sweet, extra money," without giving thought to "is this the best timing for me to work an extra 12 hour shift?" Don't get me wrong, extra $$ is always nice, but if my DH had the option for overtime, I'd still want him to check with me before volunteering for such a shift right before a big event we're hosting, KWIM?
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I think it's pretty sh*tty of the H to take the shift knowing that they had a pre-planned Christmas party to host. If I was the wife I would be pretty pissy myself. So I am judgy, but judgy about the H.
And even if they are broke and could use the extra money...so what. Who doesn't right now? Esp. when you have a child, you never get this time back. He should be with his family on Christmas eve and he shouldn't be a working/sleeping zombie from working a night shift on Christmas day.
I'm with the OP. I did my H's laundry last night while he worked the overnight shift (just sharing so you all knew what I did for my xmas eve). he just left 10 mins ago to work 11p - 7a. The husband may as well pick up extra shifts while he can because who knows how long that's going to last where they won't pay OT.