My mom called me a in mid-December, saying "I'm throwing a baby shower for your cousin's wife. She has given me these dates, and we'd really like you to be there, so what works for you?"
I said "Well, we're planning on coming up there on the weekend of 1/24 so that would probably be best, but the next weekend would, too. We have plans those other weekends.
On Saturday, I got the invite for the shower. For this Saturday. My birthday. In my hometown, 3hrs away from where I live.
To be fair, I'm not completely sure I'd have gone even if it was a different weekend, but I feel like my mom is secretly plotting to get me up there for my birthday (and yes, that's something she'd do). And giving exactly one week's notice?
Re: WTF, mom?
That's just it, zoe... I already have!
And I told her this weekend absolutely didn't work. I'm positive she knows it's my birthday because every year she calls me and gets all sappy on my birthday about how she wishes she could take me out for the big day and gets all gushy about the day I was born.
I could be paranoid, but I'm pretty sure she thinks I'll somehow cancel all plans and make the trek up north for the weekend.
I would make a point to not go simply because I said I couldn't and she obviously didn't respect that.
However, it could be that there were other issues that came up that made her "have" to have it that weekend.
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I think it's more likely your mother is trying to accomodate your cousin's wife, or possibly other shower invitees/family members. You're not the only invitee to this shower, are you?
See, the completely rational side of my brain agrees with this statement.
The other side, that saw that apparently the shower is given in part by me, and that recalls the other times my mom has done the exact opposite of my instruction (like pass on a date for my bridal shower that I really wasn't available but she wanted me home for) says otherwise.
D'oh!
Yeah, send a gift and don't cancel your plans. And when you have a chance, see if you can subtly talk to mom...with something along hte lines of, "Mom, if you really want us to get together some time, I'd be more than happy to. But TELL ME about it...don't try some tomfoolery."
You don't have to use the word "tomfoolery." I just think it's a fabulous word, lol.