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So am I being ridiculous?
So many of you know, I"m now on Facebook. You can create albums of photos that you've taken. I love taking photographs adn ahve been dubbed the Camera Nazi. I have even entered my photos in contests and ahve won. Dh knows how important photography is to me. Well, i discovered this morning, he created an album using some of my favorite pictures on HIS FB page and didn't give me credit. needless to say i threw a fit. Was i being unreasonable? he didn't ask nore give me credit. he claims he wasn't taking credit for them even though when posting, if you don't credit someone, it aultomaticly says the photos are by the person posting them. he;s pissy because most pictures were taken during a "shared vacation" as he put it. And God forbid i share them with my husband! Well sharing them with my dh and having my dh post them on a global website without giving me credit is another. i told him all he had to do was give me credit, just like we did for our wedding photos, but he took it personally and has since deleted them.
Was i out of line or should Dh get with the program and apologize both for posting them without giving me credit and having gone off on me when I told him I was upset?
Re: So am I being ridiculous?
When I post pictures of a trip, outing, or event that DH and I shared together, I wouldn't care who posted them or if credit was given--which it never is. When I post pictures, it's usually to share something like a trip that DH and I have done together and that friends/family would be interested in seeing. I guess from my perspective it is more about sharing us/what we're up to than who took the pictures.
That being said, I've never entered photos in contests. While I really enjoy photography it is purely an enjoyable interest for me. Are these artistic shots that are really unique and you feel you would want to sell/enter? GL and I hope things get better!
hello Dahling...
I would just kiss and make up. I'd be ticked off in a bit of a playful way, but not enought to spat over it. He wubs you...be flattered that he can't take good enough pictures and has to use yours...LOL!!
C ya later on FB!
First of all, I can understand where you're coming from on this - you worked hard to get the shots, and yes, you're correct that they are yours. I know the feeling - I'm the only one ever behind the camera, and it's my "thing," not his, so 99% of the shots taken are snapped by me. However (and maybe this is only because my DH could care less about posting photos and therefore doesn't do it much), if it were DH using photos I'd taken at a shared event (trip, sporting event, concert, etc.), it wouldn't bother me. That said, anyone who knows us - and therefore anyone who would see the shots - knows that I'm the one taking the pictures even without credit being given. I'm not a professional, therefore I don't need the credit of claiming photos as solely mine, even if that's what they are. I would probably get irritated if someone other than DH started swiping my photos and posting them, but that would mostly be because it would be strange, IMO.
I don't know... like Megan said, when I take photos, it's with the intention of using them to share our experiences with others and for the memories. Whether it's me sharing them or DH, the purpose is still the same, and when DH and I married, it really became a situation of what's mine is yours. I wouldn't want DH getting mad at me for "stealing" photos he'd taken and posting them myself, so why would I get upset with him?
Anyway, GL with this!
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I think you were both probably being a little unreasonable. I'm sure the initial shock really got you and depending how the convo went with your DH he probably immediately felt the need to get defensive. Guys just dont get worked up about things like pictures (unless they are a photog) and he probably viewed the pictures as being jointly owned even though you took them. I know mine probably would classify them as "our pictures" if they were taken during a vacation or trip.
Like Megan though I don't take pictures and enter them into any contests so I have no relation to that aspect.
Thanks girls. I realize I tend to get a tad over dramatic at times, this is no exception. Dh and I have kinda "talked" it out, though I suppose we'll be able to better once he's home.
The only way to describe how it felt was to say that it was like he had taken a bedroom picture of me and posted it without my consent. i know, it probably doesn't seem to be even in the same league as the pictures he posted, but they are like a part of me. I know I"m not professional, but it's like taking something i put my heart into and then tossing it out there with no cushion... God.. now I even sounding whacked to myself!
Ok, I'll take a chill pill and hopefully Dh will be a bit more considerate of how I feel about my photos now that he knows and we'll kiss and make up like Beej suggested.
I knew you would all talk some sense into me.
I would hope that he would agree to at least credit you saying something like "pictures taken by my wife" or something. I wouldn't be upset, but I don't take pictures artistically all the time so I'm not as worried about whether or not DH has pictures that I took on his myspace.
I'd actually be interested in hearing what Kylene has to say about this, being a photographer.
I'm kind of late on this, but I wanted to throw in my two cents anyway. You and your DH sound like the opposite of my DH and I. He's the photographer of two of us and I'm the one who rarely bothers to pull out my camera. I've used pictures he's taken on my myspace page, nest bio (when I had one), etc. and never thought twice about it. I don't go out of my way to give him credit unless someone comments on a picture he took. Of course, DH has never complianed to me about this. If he ever did, I would make sure to credit him or take the pics down or whatever he wanted. I certainly wouldn't fight with him about it if I knew it upset him.
I think that for the most part, people look at a picture and just see the subject- a person, a pet, a place. They aren't looking at the lighting or angle or whatever underlying aspects make it a cool shot. If that's how your husband is, he looks at a picture he just sees an aspect of his life. That's mostly how I am, which is why I don't think twice about using one of DH's pictures if it depicts a part of my life that I want other people to see.
As a photographer, however, you probably see pictures differently from most people. You don't focus on the subject so much as the artistic value of a photo. You aren't posting your pictures online just to share your life; you also want to show off your work. I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that, but I also don't think that it's necessarily unreasonable of your husband to want to use pictures you've taken. Hopefully you guys were able to talk it over and come to an understanding!!