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S/O: Facebook friends

Are there people who show up on your list of potential friends/people you may know, that you actually do know, but don't request as friends for whatever reason, but are then miffed when they don't request you to be their friend?

I constantly get folks I went to high school as suggestions, and I assume they get me, too, but I often wonder why they aren't requesting to be my friend.

My excuse ... I don't want to look needy!

Re: S/O: Facebook friends

  • YES!! I'm the exact same way!! The reason I don't ask them is because I'm afraid they will say no to being my friend. Most of them are the "cool" kids who I didn't hang out with in HS. Yes, we are grown up now but I still don't want to get "shunned" by them. :( I'm pathetic!
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  • Ok, so I'm not the only one!
  • I'm sort of lazy with facebook to be honest.  I don't take a lot of effort to request people, I have to be in the mood to do it.  On the other hand, I get requests from high school people that I never talked to and I feel compelled to accept but I really don't know them at all.
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  • Facebook has made me be bold.... I have asked so many people to be my friends, basically because I am nosey and want to see what everyone is up to.  It has been good for me... I think that most people would accept a request, I don't think that I have been denied yet.  I found this guy on there who like tortured me in middle school to the point where I still resent him for it.  I asked him to be my friend so I could see what he was up to, there was a part of me that wanted to see if I was more successful (I was so hoping for it).... yeah he has his doctorate from Princton, so well he one upped me in the career department... but ha... I have cute kids... beat that!

    **On a side note I found out that one of the kids I was friends with in HS is now a writer for Grey's Anatomy... that was pretty cool.

  • I'm like Stacey... I very rarely request people.  I did have to laugh, though, when FB kept putting - on my home page, so I saw it every time I logged in - a former friend.  I'm envisioning facebook:  "NO!  You will be friends, like it or not!" Stick out tongue  Thankfully it finally switched to three different people, but it was amusing nonetheless.
  • I am like Stacey in that I am totally compelled to accept high school friends that I wasn't super close with almost 20 years ago.  It is fun to see what people are up to after all these years. I am more timid in my friending, I think I went into this thinking it would be a good way to keep in touch with friends who live out of town.

    I had a really good FB experience last week.  I lost touch with my roommate from college after her wedding, she friended me and we got together last Friday with another good friend and had a reunion.  It was really nice to catch up.

  • There are quite a few of us on there now. My problem is, i don't recognize or know peoples rel names to request them to be my friend. i had to ask a couple questions before approving Pennylane since i didn't know her picture OR or real nameEmbarrassed
    I'd say with us, find one or two you know, friend us and then go through the nestie friends and friend the rest. that will give you a base or go into your high school or college, even family. I've had people I only know in passing friend me. So don't know if they really know who i am or are just friend whores.
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  • I'm glad to hear I am not the only one who thinks this way with Facebook. I agree with the Link Bride.  I will request friends that I know of and will accept friend request even if I barely knew them.  I am like most who are really nosey about what most people are doing in their lives but don't make an effort on my end.  I have recently found a friend from college which is great and a friend from high school just joined last night and we have been catching up.  It can be addicting.  I started so I could keep in touch with friends that live away from home easily.  It feels like my entire high school is now on there. 

    Is there a "Nest Group" on Facebook?  There seems to be 1000s of other groups.  Just curious? 

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