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Another MIL vent....
I figured I'd add one too!
Little background...my IL's live in Florida and own a consignment store. They only take "higher end" items, so it's a pretty nice store. They have been very helpful to us in the past with providing furniture from their store free of charge. I'm very appreciative of their generosity.
The problem is, I feel like my MIL is trying to push her style upon me. Our kitchen table used to be my great-grandma's. My grandparents refinished it for me when I moved out on my own. I cherish it because my pap is now deceased and I find it special that he helped refinish the table. MIL has asked me no LESS than 5 times if I want her to bring us up a bigger table from their store. DH understands that the table is special to me. He does say that when we get a bigger house, we need a bigger table. I'm ok with that, as long as this table goes to someone in our family. I will NOT throw it out. I think MIL has finally gotten the hint that we're perfectly happy with out little 4 person table right now.
She also tries to provide us with pictures for the walls. She did give us a few nice ones which we have up in the house. She's also given us a few ugly ones that she's taken back to FL.
The latest thing.....she called DH before Christmas and said she has some nice flatware (Oneida) for us if we want it. DH said yes. We never saw a picture or anything so we had no idea what it looked like. We get the flatware (she mailed it) and it's silver with a gold outline around the handles.....NMS at all. I had initially thought we were just going to use it for Thanksgiving, but DH said, no it's for everyday use. I'm fine with what we have now. I wouldn't mind upgrading, but I want us to pick out something we BOTH like together. So I told him I don't like it and he said he does. But he also said we both need to like it so he will tell his mom that we don't want it. UGH! I'm just paranoid now that MIL is going to think I'm some "country bumpkin" with no taste. I can't help it our taste isn't similar.
I've had a few issues with her in the past - her thinking that I favor my family more than DH's- but we talked that out and are ok now.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Re: Another MIL vent....
Could your DH use the silverware as an opportunity to clarify that your tastes differ, and maybe pics would help, before items are sent in the future?
Something like, "Thanks, mom, for the flatware, but once we saw it, we realized it isn't really our style. But we really appreciate your keeping an eye out for things we could use. Since we kind of have a different style in our house than you guys are used to, maybe it would help if you send pictures of stuff for us to look at first, and that way nobody would waste money on shipping things that don't work for us back and forth."
Good luck!
i always say, money can't buy taste or common sense. I find too many well people think becuase they have money to back them up on things, that makes them or ideas or taste ultimately better than yours. Do they forget that most of the designers they hire for their decorating are..commoners?!
Meanwhile my ILs are a bit the other direction. They find stuff at yardsales, not a bad thing, but MIL doesn't exactly have the taste to pick out the nice stuff.