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Sorry, It's a Rant!
Warning:?The following is a rant about my ILs, mostly my MIL!
As of late she is driving me nuts and I have tovent to someone else besides my mom...ha, she needs a break from the pregnancybitching. ?So I figured I'd lean on the good 'ole Nov 07 girls!?
Pregnancy, 7 months in review, here goes...
Announcingmy pregnancy to my ILs: ?My MIL asked if we were sure andmy FIL threw the bib we got him across the room and asked if this was amistake. ?If I'm not mistaken DH and I did things in the "right"order...dating, marriage, and then baby. ?What a way to show excitementabout your first grandchild right?
TellingMIL he's a boy: ?"Oh really? ?Well you know thereis a high percentage of the ultrasound being wrong. ?I wouldn't go gettingtoo excited." ?(This was her actual reaction to DH telling her thenews
BabyShower: ?She asked DH to ask me if I had a certain date in mind for ashower. ?I let her know that because of unpredictable weather (we live inMichigan) that I'd rather NOT do it in Jan or Feb and that I'd like to do itlate Nov or early Dec. ?Hey, she asked right? ?Her answer to what Imentioned was, "Ok, how about Jan 25th?" ?Ummmmm, ok!?Don't get me wrong I'm grateful she's having a shower for us at all, butwhy ask what I'd prefer if you totally discount it?? ?So she won, theshower is on Jan 25th.?
Sharing ourson?s name with my MIL:? DH and Idecided to name our son Carter James.?We both really liked Carter and because I?m an only child I wanted tocarry on my family name somehow so James is after my father.? Her reaction was somewhat like that ofmy 90 year old grandma, which I had completely expected from her just not my 53year old MIL.? ?Well, why Carter (in?that? tone)?? Your father and I likethe name John.?? Oooook, your point?? You had 3 children and YOU got to name them,let us name our own child and be excited with us.
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ShowingMIL pictures of what the finished nursery walls look like:?http://tinyurl.com/76ow92?and?
http://tinyurl.com/9m4kj6??Now granted the white paint is a brighter white than the molding and framed trim,but we wanted to show some contrast so we chose a darker white (it's not reallya cream color, just a hair less white). ?Her reaction to the walls wasnot, "Oh it looks great" or "Good job! ?Looks like yourhard work paid off," but "Is that all? ?The whites don'tmatch..." ?
ARE YOUKIDDING ME? ?CAN YOU PLEASE JUST SHOW SOME EXCITEMENT TOWARDS SOMETHINGFOR US? PLEASE!!!
I think it's probably a blessing in disguise thatmy SIL (my MIL's only daughter) is pregnant also, due May 31st. ?http://tinyurl.com/82ntsm?
Maybe she can focus more on her daughter's childand leave me and my child alone. ?Either be excited with us and show ussome love or forget it. ?I already feel gross and fat and super emotionalmost of the time...I certainly don't need her to bring me down even more.??
Well sorry to drag this post on and on, but Iactually feel much better even though my Buckeyes just lost the Fiesta Bowltonight. ?
Just to leave on an upbeat note, DH and I have ourfirst of 4 childbirth classes tomorrow night (I'm actually scared out of mymind) and I'm still loving the movement of Carter inside me. ?It's amazingto know that he will be born this year, in less than 3 short months.?Here's a picture of me, ha sadly sober, on New Years Eve! ?http://tinyurl.com/85wk87
Hope all is well with everyone! ?:)?
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Re: Sorry, It's a Rant!
I'm really sorry your ILs are reacting this way.
But...you do not need to get yourself worked up over them any longer. YOu're getting closer to your little one
And Carter James is an amazing name. Just relax, keep gettig your nursery ready for him and forget about your a$$hole inlaws.
Hope you're feeling good otherwise.
If you have any questions feel free to ask -- I'm not shy I'll share whatever you want -- you can always page me on my local board to0 (Hudson Valley)
I hear ya, my MIL is driving me drazy and DH is siding with her too. Long storry short, DH and I picked out a travel system. My mom said she could get it for us. DH talks to his mom and now she wants to get it. So I send her the info. I find out that they are going to be discontinuing said travel system, so I e-mail her. She doesn't get back to me, so I ask DH to call her and let her know that it is being discontinued and if she can't get it soon, I will get my mom to get it instead. She flips out, says were ungrateful and want things done on our schedule. DH sides with her and says well why does it have to be that travel system, I'm sure whatever she gets will be fine. Great, so now my MIL is picking out my childs furnature and DH thinks thats fine. Well if she doesn't get it by Wednesday or Thursday of next week, I'm going to get my mom to go get it. GEEZ....
~Katie~
Wow, my SIL went through something similar with my DH's parents. Something to look forward (or out) for I guess. I agree with pp - just try not to look for approval. Hopefully things will change when you have Carter. I think the name is great! And you looked great on New Years.
jessica
I am sorry to hear about your in-laws. ?I love the name Carter James. ?I know this is easier said than done but don't let them get to you. ?We haven't talked to my MIL since our wedding day, so thankfully I won't have to deal with her if we ever get pregnant (not trying at the moment).
?You looked great on New Years!!!!!?
So sorry you are going through this! I would be equally frustrated if I were in your situation and I'm sure that it is really disheartening to be so excited and not have your in-laws be supportive. As pps said, just try to realize that you're not going to get their approval and you have supporting parents of your own and your DH to lean on. Best of luck these last couple of months! Keep us posted!
You look awesome!