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Struggles with Infertility?
I'm just curious who here has dealt with or is currently struggling with infertility. I know everyone means well, but please do not offer advice in this thread....I'm not in a "good place" right now. I just need to know who may be going through or has gone through similar struggles.
Thanks,
And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
Re: Struggles with Infertility?
Not sure if I'm ready for that call yet, but if I do it would be simply to get tested to find out if we're sterile. If one of us is sterile, I'm not sure if it's best to know or not....especially since we don't plan on going through with any treatments. Part of me wants to know so I can stop playing this game..the other part of me doesn't see the point of knowing whose "fault" it is.
Thanks for understanding lyss....I did not realize that you had trouble before getting pregnant. I know of epphd, but that's the only other person on our boards that I'm aware of.
I apologize for being so blunt about "advice" in my OP....I do appreciate advice most of the time....just not when I'm really in a rut like this. I hope I didn't offend anyone by it. Also, I think my situation is a bit complicated because sometimes I really want to get pregnant and other times I'm scared to death of where it might lead (especially at my age). This is why I do not pray to get pregnant and I'm picky about what I'll try in order to get pregnant (if that makes any sense). Right now, I just wish I could shut off any interest in having one (the ups and downs are killing me). So.....to be fair, when someone thinks as I do, it's hard to give them advice...lol.
Anyway, I definitely hear what you are saying about the fault factor sugr and I may very well decide I want to know too..so I can move on.
Thank you.
I can totally see how it would be a roller coaster effect of not knowing whats best or how much you want to get into it - and certain days feeling like you totally wanna do it and other days feeling like you could be happy w/o it too.
IMO, the first thing no matter what is to simply bring it up at your next annual exam - how long you've been trying w/o results - and just see what the doc has to say or what they suggest as a first step. I think just putting it out there to a person who can offer you a few suggestions or options to consider might make things feel a bit easier to take - you know - biting off small chunks at a time and digesting them in your own time.
GL
Yep, that's me. It's still hard because you wonder why not me God? And yet I have no interest in arguing with Him or trying to convince HIm otherwise. You know the old saying, "Be careful what you wish for".
epphd (or something similar; her name is initials and i can never remember what they are...) is struggling and she has a link to her blog in her siggy. Maybe check her out.
hugs to you, 2vermont!!
Anything you can achieve through hard work, you could also just buy.
One of my nursing instructors is dealing with it right now. ?She and I talk a lot, especially about her struggles, and if you ever want, I'd be more than happy to ask her questions that I know she'd be more than happy to answer as best as she can. ?I know you can get info as well as any of us, but if you want to ask a medical practitioner who has personal experience, then I'll facilitate if that helps you. ?
I won't offer advice, and I can't offer empathy since I've never gone through it, but I do offer my best wishes to you and whatever help I can provide should you want it.?
Thank you Sibil .. I will definitely keep your offer in mind as I move forward. She sounds like a great resource since she's both in the medical field and she's dealing with the struggles herself.
Sugr....I just wanted to let you know that I received my notification for my annual exam in the mail yesterday. Talk about coincidental.
Mrs A and TTT....thanks for the posters' names (I knew about epphd, but I did not know about SBP) ..and Mrs A....hugs are always appreciated...thanks.