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Here comes the bride...A.L.O.T

So the wedding count for 2009 is up to five.  Five weddings in 2009.  The H is in four of them and I'm in two of them.  We are going to be broke in no time. 

We are both in one in December, we have a destination wedding in Aug or Oct (they haven't decided yet), a wedding and a baby due in May, a wedding in August, and then peen head's wedding sometime in November or December which is also a destination wedding.

I have offically cut off all weddings.  We now decline all wedding invitations for the rest of the year. 

I think us getting married sparked something in all of our friends signaling that it is now OK to get married.

Re: Here comes the bride...A.L.O.T

  • Wow, that's crazy! makes me glad I don't have many friends..lol. and most of H's friends are already married. So far we only have 1 wedding this year, in August. H is in that one.
  • Yeah, this sounds like the year DH and I got married. (Sorry, I'm going to be "the relater" here!)  There were a total of 5 or 6 that year, including our own.  We were both in one in June, ours was Sept., then I was in one more in October. It's really not any fun, I don't envy you. It's exhausting and expensive, especially since one of yours is destination!
  • Two are destination!  Only one requires plane tickets though, but both will require us to take time off from work to travel.  I have no desire to fly to peen heads wedding.
  • We had 2 destination weddings in 2007 - Cape Cod in Sept and Mexico in Nov. And we had just bought our house (and started planning our wedding). Come to think of it - I'm not sure how we were able to afford that?! Cape Cod wasn't too bad b/c the bride was rich and paid for all the wedding party's lodging. So we just paid for our flights to RI and the rental car. Plus the costs of H being in the wedding and all. Mexico was expensive, though.

    I know the one destination is peen-heads, but are one of you in the other destination wedding? is it imperative that you go? 

     

  • It's my sisters. She got engaged this weekend. It will either be in Vermont or in the Caribbean.
  • Aw, that's exciting!! Wow, what a difference b/n Vermont and the Caribbean. Where is peenhead's?
  • Peen head's is in Key West and we were told that if we both don't attend then they will take a lot of offense to it.  Even after I explained that it all depends on air fare.  We just might not be able to afford both going down there.

    Peen head's woman wants us both to come down and stay a week.  I don't think she understands that money doesn't grow on trees.

  • Wow aren't you so popular
  • go away troll... You have made it clear that we are all lame losers bc we chat on message boards after our weddings... Sorry we can't all troll away making fun of ppl for no good reason...

    And Natalie I feel your pain!  We already have 5 weddings this year (2 of which I am in...) and one is a destination wedding to Mexico.  We actually already have 3 weddings for 2010!  We are going to be exhausted!

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  • It's very daunting how much money it is going to cost us. If you travel to a destination wedding do you still give the bride and groom a monitary gift?
  • Nat - we went in with another couple and got the bride & groom a gift. It just wasn't as much as I'd normally spend for a wedding. We got them the grind & brew coffeemaker. So I think it was around $80/couple. It was my friend's second marriage, so she didn't register and said she didn't want gifts. Obviously, we wanted to give them something.

    For the Cape Cod wedding, we pretty much went with normal gifts.

  • We still gave the couple a gift although it wasnt as much as we would have had we not had to travel.  I believe that some of the other guests went in on a gift together and got the couple a spa certificate for the resort we were staying at... I think most couples are happy when ppl can make their destination weddings and aren't so concerned about the gifts... (thats been my experieince anyway...)
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    IUI #1 & 1.2 canceled
    IVF #2 ER 12/1, Freeze all due to OHSS
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  • Luckily, as I'm sure ValentineBride would agree, I'm an old married loser Winkand most of my friends are already married, but we had the run of weddings, too.  I think it happens when you hit your mid-20's. 

    Lily, I believe ettiquette says if you travel to a destination wedding that your presence is present enough.  My friend got married in St. Thomas last year and I had the invitation framed for them and spent about half of what I'd give as a gift, but she was also one of my best friends, so I didn't want to go empty handed.

  • Luckily I'm the only married one in my friends so far,  so I've been spared wedding-palossa. 

    The summer after our wedding we had three,  two of which were cousins back to back.  My cousin lives and married in Vegas,  so my other cousin decided to use having  the family there and being in the country (she lives in Europe) to get married too.  One was July 6th,  the other July 7th.  It did save on airfare!

  • wow...you are going to be busy!  I think the destination weddings will be fun!!! 

    We had 4 in 07 but they were spread out, which was good.   My friend Melissa had 8 that year...it was nuts and she was so sick of weddings by the end.

     

  • it's the age! A few years back DH and I had 9 weddings in one year and had to travel for five of them!  Now I miss them! I wish they were more spread out more, we only had one last year and so far one coming up in May.
  • We had 5 weddings in a two month spread last year. Ours was the last one in May and by the end of it I was so SICK of weddings.

    None this year. Which sucks cause I want an occaison to wear my fancy jewelery again.

  • Wowza! That's a ton of weddings!
  • that is insane!!! We have one this year and I'm in it. Other than that one we have no friends that are even close to having steady realationship let alone getting married, thank god!
  • and I thought I had a lot.....we have 3 as of right now with 2 more engagments in the making :) I'm in all 3 and FI is in 2....2 are before our and one is after.  We also have 3 friends all expecting their first babies in July and August...it's insane!!  I said that I'm not excepting any other bridal party invites...I"ll be happy to attend but I can't afford to be in anymore this year
  • i can't wait until all of my friend are married!!  I had four weddings last year (i was only in one), and I'm in only one so far this year , and then i know a friend who's getting engaged soon and then another girl who may have a 10 or 11 wedding.  it's just so expensive--and it all depends on how demanding the bride is and the other bridesmaids.

     

    good luck!

  • I def feel your pain.  We had 6 weddings last year and went to 5 of them.  So far we have 2 that we know of this year, but they're a few months apart.  At least you can recycle some dresses!
  • OUCH! 

    If it's any consolation, once you get old, your friends stop asking you to be BMs and start turning to their younger, firmer and prettier cousins. At least that's what happened with mine!  LOL

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