Engagement rings ?

lilylow · January 2009

So two people we know have gotten engaged with a ring that isn't a diamond. Is this a new trend? Neither of the girls went with the guy at all to look at rings before hand either. Are some guys just clueless.

Somehow to me a non diamond ring just doesn't say forever. Money wasn't an issue for either couple. Is this a new trend or just something odd?

phillygrl16 · January 2009

Maybe they didn't want diamonds? Ryan's friend got his wife diamond earrings b/c she didn't want an e-ring. She wanted him to save the $$. She has a diamond wedding band, though. But I think that's the only non-traditional couple I know of.

lilylow · January 2009

My sister wanted a diamond, but got as she says "a light blue stone". She doesn't even know what it is. I was just wondering if this is the new trend in weddings.

Jlynn3 · January 2009

I don'y know if it is a trend or just preference?... My cousin's center stone is a saphirre with diamonds set beside it - I love it- its very "her"

phillygrl16 · January 2009

Hmm..that's weird. I've seen the different colored diamonds. Maybe it is a new trend and someone talked her FI into it?

EvaLovesThePeter · January 2009

I though what Toni did, Maybe the girls didn't want an diamond. I know a few girls that got gemstones (usually saphires) because they really like colored stones better. Some high quality gemstones are way more expensive than diamonds when you compare ct to ct. I know real mined Rubys and Emeralds are. and they are a better investment since they are rarer than diamonds.

lilylow · January 2009

I feel bad for my sister because she loves my ring. In fact she has told her now FI on multiple occassions that she wants something just like it.

I know the other person who has a non-diamond ring has a blue sapphire.

leiakat · January 2009

Some girls just don't want a diamond. The tradition of the diamond only started last century, to sell more of the stone. The classic ring before that was a pearl. My old co-worker loved pearls, so she got a pearl in a diamond setting from her fiance. I didn't really care about a diamond, but my husband wanted to give me one, so he got it set with real (not lab created) sapphires.

Personally I think there should be some discussion before getting a ring. Since this is something you will wear for life, at least know the ring she would want.

beachbaby16 · January 2009

Ive heard that sometimes jeweles suggest a colored gemstone instead of a colored diamond when price is a factor. I agree though, some girls dont like diamonds. I told DH I didnt care if it was a diamond, i would have loved a blue or pink sapphire instead, but he did diamond anyway and its still a beautiful riing. I have another friend who doesnt like diamonds at all, she really wanted a ruby. her DH didnt quite understand and her ring is diamond with ruby accents. Did your sister every think of asking her FI what type of stone is in her ring?

mrsbam0602 · January 2009

Maybe they talked about not wanting diamonds? ?You know how girls drop hints. ?I can't believe a guy could be that clueless. ?I mean, when guys think of e-rings I can't imagine they would think of anything other than diamonds.

I used to think anything other than a diamond was a "promise" ring, not an engagement ring. ?Now I'd be happy to have a seashell on my finger if we could have that money back in the bank. ?LOL, ok not really I love my rings.?

lilylow · January 2009

My sister asked if it was a promise ring when he gave it to her!

DowagerCountessofNJ · January 2009

We have a friend who recently got engaged and her ring is a heart and it has 3 small diamonds on the inside of the heart. It does not look like an engagement ring at all. I've heard from other friends of ours that she doesn't like it but what can you say? "Honey, I really don't like the engagement ring you gave me. Try again."

I don't think he gave it a thought of if it's going to stand the test of time. Yes its unique and she may like it now but what about in 5, 10, 15, 20 years from now?

I have seen the sapphire rings. That's what Princess Di got when she got engaged. I like them but I wouldn't want it for my ring.

Virginny · January 2009

Now, that I think of it, I would've been happy w/ a colored diamond, because they are pretty unique. But at the time I was more concerned with "being a classic bride" and was wondering what others would think. Now that I'm married, I don't give a darn. Surprise

Happily though, my sister's boyfriend is emailing me with ring questions and suggestions for her to ensure she's happy with the ring - she won't be picking it out like others.

CoolMoD · January 2009

Lily, is it maybe just a colored diamond? What was his response when she asked if it was a promise ring?

I know several people, myself included, who have sapphires set around a central diamond, but no one I know IRL has anything other than a diamond center stone.

lilylow · January 2009

No it isn't a colored diamond. She thinks it's an Aquamarine stone. She doesn't want to ask.

CoolMoD · January 2009

Maybe she can pop in to a jeweler "to have it cleaned", wink, and ask them? If it were me, whether I liked it or not, I'd at least want to know since people will inevitably ask.

lilylow · January 2009

I just feel bad for her. I haven't gotten the whole story, but from what my mom told me he didn't even ask properly.

She's older then me and really wanted the "moment". I think I'll kick Gabe's ass next time I see him.

CoolMoD · January 2009

That really sucks. I hope she's happier with the actual wedding.

Twinkle19 · January 2009

Thats such a shame that she is not happy. But maybe she could get a really awsome wedding band that she loves and that might make her feel better about her e-ring.

KristylovesBriley · January 2009

Maybe it's just me, but I like to think that if you're close enough with someone that you're going to marry them, that you'd be close enough to be OK with asking what kind of stone it is, etc.

6ft2bride · January 2009

Diamonds are very controversial. I know a friend of mine doenst want a diamond if she ever gets engaged for that reason. If she is happy with the ring, that should be all that counts, right?? I have seen alot of girls do the colored side stones (that is what I have). But a couples engagment ring is their business, who are we to pass judgement on the couple (or the guy) based on a ring?

CoolMoD · January 2009

6ft, we're not passing judgment on the ring itself, just his decision to buy it. The issue is that she DID want a diamond, and he bought this other ring that she's too uncomfortable to tell him she doesn't like, and she has no idea what the stone even is. If she liked it, that would be great, but apparently she doesn't.

lilylow · January 2009

It's my sister and she isn't 100% happy so I will pass judgement on the guy if I want to. She comes first. Maybe you should have read the whole post more carefully.

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