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Am I Old Fashioned?
I'll probably get flamed for this.
We just received a "thank you" note in the mail from the couple that was married the week before us. It was something they made on Snapfish and is a photo collage with "Mr. and Mrs. Blankity Blank", the wedding date and "Thanks for sharing our special day". I'm kind of annoyed. Whatever happened to the hand written thank you note? It's not just this couple either, we haven't received a note for a wedding we went to in October and a bridal shower I went to in November.
Am I just old fashioned?
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Re: Am I Old Fashioned?
you're not old fashioned at all...you're just someone who understands/appreciates the value of saying thank you! Its seriously my pet peeve when people don't take 2 minutes to personalize (or just hand sign) the note! We got a mass wedding thank you via email (yep, distribution list).
My best friend has my godchildren (aged 3 and 5) send us handwritten notes for anything we send them. Its so cute and if 2 little ones can write the note, adults can do the same.
Perhaps, but there is nothing wrong with that.
People have up to a year to send a thank you card, so there's still hope.
I won't lie we still haven't sent ours out. We're a bad married couple. We filled them all out and then unpacked tons of boxes and lost them. We have although seen everyone since and they know whats up. We also made it a point to go table to table at the wedding.
You're not old fashioned, people are just becoming more rude. For some the wedding is a present grab, and since you own them a gift - why should they put effort into thanking you? I'm still waiting for a thank you from a wedding in December, or an acknowledgement of the pictures the bride requested from her guests. It is amazing how manners are fading away. Someone takes the time to celebrate with you and buy you a gift, why is it so hard to show some effort?
I personally followed the traditional 'two week' rule for my thank yous, and they all were personalized.
Actually it is people have a year to send a wedding gift. Traditionally thank you notes are due in two weeks of receipt or the event, it can be extended to a month if the event is very large. That is just basic etiquette.
Wow, over react a bit? I am stating the traditional etiquette, if you choose to follow it is your choice.
Well then according to this I should've been writing them on my honeymoon. Since we were gone for two weeks.
It is extended to a month for a large event, ie wedding.
eh- I had the picture ones....not computerized and I wrote the personal note. I don't like the shutterfly idea at all.
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I can honestly say I have never gotten wedding TYs within three weeks after a wedding. More like three months. Mine took that long since the pics had to be ordered. I think its kind of weird to care as long as you get them...
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Guess I'm horribly rude then... I had photo thank you's and I was complimented over and over on them... ?
For my shower I did hand write personalized thank yous...?
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I'd appreciate something like that. Something that let's me know you didn't have someone else stuff the thank you's.
Oh well I'm a horribly rude person. Put it on my tombstone.
"Here lies lily, she sent thank-you notes past the due date."
Again, wow at the over reacting. I didn't know the Nest gave Oscars.
ditto.
I personally don't care. I had a friend that did the generic photo one before. I thought it was odd, but it didn't bother me. We did a photo card, but wrote on the back. And mine were done at least 3 months after the wedding.
I mean - you pretty much write the same generic crap on every thank you. I guess it's personal because you're writing it. But I didn't really write anything personal, except for my close family and WP.
I wrote mine because I know the older people appreciate it.
Yes, you are old fashioned ( and I'm right there with you ), but that is great. Nowadays, appreciation, morals, kindness, they are all fadding into the darkness and being replaced with intitlement, no self responsibility, and greed.
The photo TYs are cute but a hand written note should be inside of them.
Just my opinion.
OMG, I'm totally obsessed with thank you's and my DH can't STAND it! I went to this white trash wedding and the bride sent pre-written TY's. Then I went to a baby christening, gave them a bond, a book and a beautiful bib and didn't even get a thank you! So I crossed them off the my list. THEN, I went to one of H friends weddings when we had just started dating, gave gift. Went to there baby's christening, gave gift. So when OUR wedding came around, they called 2 days before the wedding and said they couldn't come (so we already paid for them) and they never sent us a gift!
Sorry, but again I think I obsess over this...maybe I need help..LOL
I've complained about the exact same thing. I don't think your old fashioned. I think some people just don't see the importance of recognizing a guests efforts in take the time to find and purchase a gift for their wedding.
I've gotten 2 wedding thank yous like the one you described. I was pi$$ed!! Both the weddings, either DH or myself were in the bridal party!!
But I can one up the thank you cards.....It's so tacky, I think I'll start another post!
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