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Need opinions re: friends miscarriage.
Some of you may remember my friend who just had a baby in March found out she was pg again. Well I received an e-mail that she had a miscarriage. I immediately sent her an e-mail back about how I was thinking of her and all of that friend stuff. My question is, she is still having everyone over this weekend for the USC/UCLA game. When I see her should I say something? I don't want to get her upset, especially when she's having so many people over. What do you guys think?
Re: Need opinions re: friends miscarriage.
agreed that a hug is nice. If after the party you want to give her a small gift, I would think those nice sterling silver necklaces that say, "faith" or "strength" are perfect for these occasions. I gifted one to my cousin when our nephew was diagnosed with ALL and she treasures it dearly. She said it was a constant reminder that there were many of us who were thinking of her...and she looked to her necklace during moments of weakness.
Willowtree, which I absolutely love, also has some gorgeous trinket boxes and statues about faith, love, strength and compassion. I gift those out as well:)
Honestly, based on how I felt after my m/c. ?I would send her another e-mail letting her know you are there for her if she wants to talk.
But at the GTG just greet her in the normal way, and when you are leaving or if you are there after others have left, then you can give her a hug. ?Not sure about the gift though. ?I probably would have hated it. ?I hated anything that reminded me I was pg and not now. ?I took it really hard! ?Just follow her lead.
Just letting her know you are there for her is the best thing you can do.?
I was really hot and cold with people after my miscarriage, one minute I wanted to talk, and the next I didn't, I am embarrassed to say, but the moments when I didn want to talk and I had a good friend there, were really special.
I agree with princess_shelly, try to follow her lead, if you have a moment alone you could let her know that you are there and ask her how she's doing, or if there is anything you can do.
and don't say things like...
Well you can always try again. ? It was god's will. ? Maybe it's for the best.
Just say I am sorry for your loss.
I got a lot of the "well at least you know you can get pg" I hated that. ?I would have rather people said nothing .
thoughts and prayers for your friend and her family
let her take the lead
Li'l Peas "faith" & "strength" gifts ideas made me tear up...but IMHO, I'd do that separate from the gtg this weekend
Have fun!