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Why are IL's a$$$$ sometimes?
(hehe..shelly, I hope you dont mind me borrowing your subject line)
Okay, on a more serious note. We just found out that my SIL (well, dh's SIL) is pg. Woowoo for her and her hubby. A baby is a blessing and we are very happy for them...
until.... she decided to rub her quick pregnancy in my face. Yes, it has been over a year since we started trying again and I have already started the fertility meds. Okay, so she says, "oh, I drop my guard for one moment and I am pg! I was not even sure I wanted another. Hubby just said in Oct he wanted another. And look, I am 5 weeks pg." Our fertility issues have been discussed with the IL's. The subject of when we are having #2 has come up a bit. I finally got them to stop asking when we admitted to seeing extra help on the matter. So SIL's comment was like a knife in the heart. I really did not need more salt to my already open emotional wound on this subject.
second, she proceeds to tell us that if she has a girl, she wants to name her after my MIL. WAIT.... the same name that we had been telling the family we were going to name our little girl if we ever had one. ARgh. Honestly, the name stealing thing is not what upset me (okay just a little). I am more pissy with the fact that my BIL and his wife show no respect for my MIL. My BIL will go over to his mom's house and walk straight to the back to avoid saying hi. SIL will get in fights with her and not talk to her for months, even years.. refusing to take the grandkids over. When MIL is in the hospital.. neither one goes... okay they go.. but only have days have passed and they got the guilt trip from my other IL's.
Then there is my hubby. He is the biggest mama's boy I have never met, next to my little guy. His mom is sick, we drop everything to be there. We are always in LB to see her and make sure that she gets to see J-man a lot. She is not in her best health and my dh feels so guilty that he can't take care of her more.
So, for IL's to decide that they want to "honor" someone by naming a child after her seems odd. It just does not fit. Honestly, I think she is doing it on purpose to piss me off. EVERYONE in the family knew about how we wanted the name and why.
Sorry for the long vent. I am really not that upset.. just think it all seems strange and a little bit like a personal attack.
Re: Why are IL's a$$$$ sometimes?
Sorry you are going through that. ?I would probably feel the same way.
My SIL had to name her son Justin, He is 4 mos younger than Jacob, so now we have Jacob & Justin (she doesn't even like that name) ?my poor MIL gets so confused. ?We used DH's/FIL's name for Jacob's middle name, and she did the same for Justin (she used her dh's name of course). ?AT least she has a different last name!
I keep my names to myself. ?If we have a girl for #2 we have a few G names that sound like J names.?
Marina, I'm sorry, your SIL sounds like a real crotch of a person. you'd hope she wouldn't, but she probably is deliberately needling you with her PG and trying to steal using MIL's name... she'd have to be as thick as two planks not to know that it would bother you. (That's just mean!)
I'm glad to read that you aren't letting it bother you too much -just let it slide, unfortunately you can't do much about people's crappy behavior except not let it affect you.