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Friends expectation?
About 4 months ago my bf had a little boy, she had just finished nursing school and gotten a job, but did not qualify for any paid maternity leave. So needless to say money was tight for them. When she and the baby came home I dropped off several weeks worth of grocceries. I just remembered when DD was born I hated getting out of the house to pick up dinner ect... And howe nice it was to pop somthing in the oven So my problem is another friend is due in January, and she knows about the food being dropped off several months ago, and she is expecting the same thing. She has even made some comments about "don t forget I like boneless chicken..." I was not planning on doing this for them since both she and her H have great jobs. She is a DR by the way! BUt my ??? Is how do I tell them in a nice way, I am not bringing you food!. We are friends~she just doesnt need this and I still want to be friends after her baby is born. Why do people expect you to go out of your way for them?? Anyway Please help. What should I do? TIA
Re: Friends expectation?
Ew....sticky situation. BTW....that was so nice of you to do that for your freind. I would be so thankful for that food. I have already been thinking about cooking some stuff and freezing it.
Well is she the type freind you could just talk to her and say "hey I took freind A the food b/c financially they were in a pinch". Then she might get the picture that you didn't plan on doing it for her since they make plenty of money.
Thanks thats a good ides! I will put it off on the holidays, and hopefully be done with it.
Is there any chance she's doing it as a kind of twisted joke? If Mrs.Oblivious mentions this again I'd stop dead still, look her straight in the eyes and tell her that I did that because they were in a really serious financial bind followed by, aren't you thankful that YOU are not in that situation?
Seriously she sounds really greedy and selfish.
BTW Lilcrablegs one casserole idea is great...
those were my thoughts exactly.
Then you don't have to go over the top for someone who isn't in need of it like your other friend but you've done something wonderful and nice for this one.
GL!!!
I would do EXACTLY this. That's really obnoxious of her. I would have no problem telling it that you did that for your other friend because you knew they were in a financial bind.