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advice, please re: Baptising a baby when...
you don't belong to a particular church?
This is really distressing me, b/c I'd have preferred to have baptised Blair already -we're not Catholic, but I can't help worrying about her poor immortal soul being in limbo if something awful happened.
Dh was baptised Lutheran (he didn't even know! His mom goes to Calvary Chapel, and they dedicate, not baptise, babies so I assumed that he hadn't been. He was baptised in the Lutheran church in Redondo that his grandmother used to attend) and I was baptised Eastern Orthodox, and neither of us have attended ANY church regularly since we were kids.
I think it's important for DH and I to have a better grasp of our own faith so that we can put Blair on a good spiritual path as well, but where do we go?
We attended service at an orthodox church in Torrance, but DH didn't like the priest. I was thinking that we could attend services at both the church he was baptised in (Resurrection Lutheran), and the local Greek Orthodox church (St. Katherine's) as well (he's Greek, I'm orthodox, it could work) and see which we feel more comfortable with, maybe join the congregation, and eventually have the baby baptised.
Does this seem like a good plan for a couple of heathens such as us?
Re: advice, please re: Baptising a baby when...
If it comforts you, we're sort of in the same position...DH and I are baptized catholic but are not active participants in any parish(es). My mom however is active in the parish that I grew up with, so we baptized both J & N in that church.
Is any of your DH's family still members at Resurrection? Perhaps it would be nice to have Blair baptized there too. How about your family? Are they members at St. Katherine's?
I don't really have any suggestions other than keep attending churches until you find one you're comfortable with.
i truly believe that baptism should be up to the individual. ?it's kind of like taking communion - you should be fully aware of what it symbolizes before you partake. ?
i was baptized as a baby into the catholic church, but it meant absolutely nothing to me. ?but two years ago, i chose to be baptized with my christian church, and it was extremely meaningful.
just my $.02.?
You were the picture I was thinking of! I could picture it in my head along with the picture of your pretty red head girls, but could not think of a knottie name.
If it makes you feel any better, the Catholic church got rid of "limbo" for unbaptized babies. It's no longer a teaching that they have.
Good luck with your decision.
DH & I are both catholic, but went through the same thing, when we became serious about our relationship. ?HE didn't like my church (St. Phillips), I didn't like his (Resurrection), so we found a church that we both liked together (Holy Family). ?We joined and that is where we were confirmed, Married, and Baptized Jacob.
It is important for you to find a place you are comfortable. ?I would never have baptized Jacob somewhere I didn't belong, or didn't like, just for the sake of Baptizing him.
I agree with you attending the different churches to see where you feel at home. ?You can actually join a church and register for baptism at the same time I believe.